"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

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its been a year

godjwood

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girl ive been after for a year... changes her mind about us as friends or more all the time. crazy about her. most recent IM conversation. tell me what you think.

yyyy (12:14:32 AM): j
Xxxx (12:14:37 AM): hey
yyyy (12:14:43 AM): what are you doing
Xxxx (12:14:48 AM): playin tar
yyyy (12:14:53 AM): tar?
yyyy (12:14:56 AM): guitar
Xxxx (12:15:03 AM): ya got it
yyyy (12:15:09 AM): you got the abbreviating from me
Xxxx (12:15:28 AM): perhaps
yyyy (12:15:31 AM): yup
yyyy (12:15:37 AM): i originate
Xxxx (12:15:42 AM): haha do not
yyyy (12:15:45 AM): yup
yyyy (12:16:01 AM): anyways, did you do any work
Xxxx (12:16:47 AM): noo im probably gonna pull off one of ur sleep til 2 pm's then study durin the day
yyyy (12:17:32 AM): haha
yyyy (12:17:38 AM): you love that
Xxxx (12:18:01 AM): what the lseeping til 2
Xxxx (12:18:04 AM): whats with the underline
yyyy (12:18:10 AM): i dont know i felt like it
Xxxx (12:23:36 AM): im gonna take a shower ttyl
yyyy (12:25:52 AM): you done?
Xxxx (12:25:59 AM): what?
yyyy (12:26:06 AM): taking a shower
Xxxx (12:26:18 AM): im actualy still sittng on my ass
yyyy (12:26:23 AM): hahaha i dont doubt
yyyy (12:26:24 AM): lazy
Xxxx (12:26:27 AM): ur
yyyy (12:26:38 AM): what?
Xxxx (12:26:50 AM): u r
yyyy (12:27:01 AM): i dont like letter abbreviations
Xxxx (12:27:08 AM): i dont care
yyyy (12:27:16 AM): do you ever notice how people talk online
yyyy (12:27:23 AM): i know that silly
Xxxx (12:27:48 AM): umm yea im pretty sure ive noticed
yyyy (12:28:00 AM): ok
yyyy (12:28:23 AM): so anyways how was the day
Xxxx (12:28:50 AM): not bad classed it up and painted
Xxxx (12:28:53 AM): got half the house done in aday
yyyy (12:29:05 AM): good job
Xxxx (12:29:25 AM): thanks chief
Xxxx (12:29:30 AM): alright im taking a shower for real now
yyyy (12:29:33 AM): hahha right
Xxxx (12:29:34 AM): nite
yyyy (12:29:37 AM): goodnight
yyyy (12:30:03 AM): wait
Xxxx (12:30:15 AM): yea
yyyy (12:30:25 AM): did you get my message today
Xxxx (12:30:30 AM): yea
yyyy (12:30:34 AM): whatd you think
yyyy (12:30:39 AM): id like to know your perspective
Xxxx (12:31:09 AM): you know my perspective
yyyy (12:31:29 AM): fair enough, just didnt know if you had a comment on the message
yyyy (12:31:34 AM): night j
Xxxx (12:32:14 AM): youll realize it too eventually

Auto response from yyyy (12:32:15 AM): she dreams in color
she dreams in red.


Session concluded at 12:32:24 AM

yyyy (12:32:33 AM): realize what
Xxxx (12:33:01 AM): youll realize im right
Xxxx (12:33:07 AM): but i gotta move on
yyyy (12:33:17 AM): answer me this
yyyy (12:33:20 AM): did you try to move in before
yyyy (12:33:25 AM): on
Xxxx (12:33:33 AM): this past month
Xxxx (12:33:36 AM): ?
yyyy (12:33:40 AM): in general
Xxxx (12:34:05 AM): this past month was the only time since ive met you that i have tried for anyone else but you
yyyy (12:34:23 AM): i like honest answers..thanks
Xxxx (12:34:26 AM): then you drew me bakc in
Xxxx (12:34:31 AM): then you changed your mind again
Xxxx (12:34:45 AM): and i know youll figure it out eventually
Xxxx (12:34:48 AM): but i cant wait around anymore
yyyy (12:34:56 AM): what do you mean i drew you back in
Xxxx (12:35:33 AM): you made that confession to me and told me youd give it a chance and i thought u meant it
yyyy (12:36:39 AM): you are probably the best person in the world, and for some reason i don't comprehend that
Xxxx (12:36:54 AM): comprehend what
yyyy (12:37:22 AM): what i just said
Xxxx (12:37:52 AM): can i send you a song
yyyy (12:37:58 AM): yeah
yyyy (12:38:00 AM): of course
xxxx wants to send file C:\Documents and Settings\Xxxx\Desktop\Cold Cold Heart.mp3 (12:38:31 AM).
Xxxx (12:38:38 AM): u gotta take off ur away msg
xxxx wants to send file C:\Documents and Settings\Xxxx\Desktop\Cold Cold Heart.mp3 (12:39:05 AM).
yyyy received C:\Documents and Settings\Xxxx\Desktop\Cold Cold Heart.mp3 (12:39:28 AM).
yyyy (12:42:46 AM): song is amazing surprised i dont know it
Xxxx (12:43:06 AM): yea figured youd like it
Xxxx (12:44:16 AM): like i can tell right now your changing your mind again
Xxxx (12:44:24 AM): but then if i went along with it youd change your mind again
Xxxx (12:44:37 AM): and its going to make me insane
Xxxx (12:44:47 AM): and your blinding me from anything else thats out there
yyyy (12:45:07 AM): no im not, i have never stopped you from seeing or being wiht other people
yyyy (12:45:16 AM): you make up your own decisions
Xxxx (12:45:20 AM): im not blaming you
yyyy (12:45:21 AM): you obviously felt something was right
Xxxx (12:46:06 AM): i am so positive its right thats why its been so frusterating for me
yyyy (12:46:43 AM): i cant believe you just said that
Xxxx (12:46:52 AM): that?
yyyy (12:47:11 AM): i am so positive its right thats why its been so frusturating for me
Xxxx (12:47:24 AM): why cant you beleive that
yyyy (12:47:30 AM): i dont know
yyyy (12:47:43 AM): just cant
Xxxx (12:50:53 AM): well im going to take a shower for real this time
yyyy (12:51:00 AM): alright....
Xxxx (12:51:20 AM): do you want to talk more?
Xxxx (12:51:27 AM): i mean put yourself in my shoes
Xxxx (12:51:35 AM): i really cant wait for you to make up your mind anymore
yyyy (12:51:42 AM): i understand
yyyy (12:51:57 AM): you have the complete right to move on
yyyy (12:52:49 AM): ill prob stop by tomorrow after class
Xxxx (12:53:09 AM): ok
yyyy (12:53:10 AM): ok
yyyy (12:53:17 AM): i have class till 1045
yyyy (12:53:25 AM): how bout you
Xxxx (12:53:34 AM): i dont have classes
yyyy (12:53:48 AM): oh right, ok call you after class then
yyyy (12:53:54 AM): ill prob be waking you up haha
Xxxx (12:54:17 AM): thats fine
yyyy (12:54:32 AM): ok goodnight xxxx
yyyy (12:54:40 AM): even though i never call you xxxx
Xxxx (12:54:53 AM): haha yea i thought that was a little wierd
Xxxx (12:56:27 AM): goodnight
yyyy (12:56:36 AM): nite j

Session concluded at 12:56:40 AM

yyyy (1:03:35 AM): you sleepin
Xxxx (1:04:49 AM): no i still havent taken a shower haha

Auto response from yyyy (1:04:49 AM): cell
 

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Blackdragon5095

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OMG!!! :nono:
a year ? a whole f**king year !!!!
their is no girl worth chasing for a whole year !!!
Even if she had pu$$y that would make you want to say damn the whole time your banging her she still isn't worth a whole year.

NEXT TIME !!! MOVE ON !!!!!!!!!! Don't chase a girl for a whole year !!! She will be in control, you don't want that. You want to be in control, make her realize that your the best thing in her life.

But if you really want her then hey knock yourself out.
But next time that is a no no no :kick:
 

tmpgstx

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By viewing your conversation, think it's safe to say you're deep in the friends zone. She isn't showing any interest other than being friends - your the one who brought up the 'where are we' status and she is just trying to supress that and keep you as a friend but not hurt your feelings.

It is time to move on and look around for other girls while keeping this one as a friend if it isn't too frustrating (and i'm sure it is - i mean a year).
 

christz

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i agree your deep in the friends zone, a good way to stay outta that if you plan on spending that much time on a girl is to keep contact really limited, shoot the shyt once in a while, don't talk about problems, don't help her when she has guy problems.

your'll find you'll be in a safe zone where you can go either way.
 

godjwood

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we dont talk about problems, she doesnt have guy problems because she doesnt have guys. or doesnt tell me about them. our contact is pretty limited. we hang out maybe a couple times a month
 

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