"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It's always the WOMAN who does the dumping

evansblue

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Throughout high school, college, work friends, etc. I can't name ONE SINGLE exception where the attractive girl was dumped. I mean, it's almost unheard of. I'd say 90% of guys on this forum are here because their girl bailed.

This just goes to show you that guys are way more clingy than girls and get way to complacent in their dating lives. It's a startling statistic.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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No, it's not, but the odds are heavily tilted that way. Most guys aint about nothing, is the main problem. No skills, no knowledge, no real interests in anything, really. So how are they going to support her and her kids, teach the kids properly, etc, hmm? That sort of thinking is hardwired into women, they don't consciously consider it, it's just part of what they consider attractive or not, in a man.
 

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Laff,

Actually it's not it's just that if you here you need help in some form or fashion whereas the guys who dump already know what to do innately and they don't have issues finding replacements and don't care enough.

This is the central point being able to live one's live and not worry whether a woman is in it or not.

Men gt dumped because they care too much or way too little
 

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I've dumped a couple of girls. I'd say more guys are here cause they can't find a woman at all.
 

st_99

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Its true that hot girls do not get dumped. Those are just the facts of life.

Its like a girl wanting so bad to be able to kick the crap out of a guy, its never
going to happen, they just need to accept that.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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floydb25

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I don't know of any girls that got dumped per say... The guy just stopped talking to them. I think its because they don't want her to beg or whine for another chance. Or they simply don't want to. Girls usually do the actual dumping. They'll say let's just be friends, they don't feel the chemistry, they should see other people, etc.

Women are more open and communicative. We just disappear or keep things to ourselves. It doesn't mean they don't get dumped - just not in the same way.

It also depends on what kind of relationship you have with someone. If its chaos - like a lot of them are - no one really gets dumped. You just hate the other person, and vice versa. It's pretty mutual - both parties blame the other. Doesn't matter who dumps who.
 

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I've dumped two, but only been dumped once. I may get dumped again this weekend, heh, but we'll see what happens.

Of the two I dumped, the hotter one was an 8/9. The problem is that she had such self-esteem issues that she never acted like a hot girl. She never realized that she could have guys lining up for her. I always got a kick out of watching her get hit on when I left her alone for a minute to get a drink or something. When I would get back, she would look at me like, "meathead, do something!" But I digress. The point is that if she knew that she had it going on, she would've likely left me first.

Yes, it's the ones who are hot and know it that do the dumping way more often than they get dumped. It's because they know they can. If you need her more than she needs you, she is in the position of dumping, but luckily for us, the opposite holds true as well.

So to avoid being dumped, be sure she has the higher interest level. How to go about this is more easily said than done.
 

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I just dumped the last girl I was with. A girl everyone told me was "WAY too hot for me". She had only been dumped once before me.

I have now dumped 5 of my 6 exclusive girlfriends...
 

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Meathead: WTF, mate? Those girls are the best. The ones who are hot, and don't know it. They're usually not stuck up and conceited. Unless she was clingy, insecure, and in need of reassurance.... Then I can understand not wanting her.
 

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That's not true. I was in relationship with an 8 who let me phuck her whenever I wanted, cooked for me, got me presents, & treated me like a king. I Moved across the country & dumped her after I saw the babes in California.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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meathead

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floydb25 said:
Meathead: WTF, mate? Those girls are the best. The ones who are hot, and don't know it. They're usually not stuck up and conceited. Unless she was clingy, insecure, and in need of reassurance.... Then I can understand not wanting her.
Oh man, there's a lot more to that relationship than what I wrote. But more to the point of the original post, this girl is now realizing what she's got and I suspect she will start using it to her advantage. Not only that, she's starting to make good money, so she can afford to be selective. She'll be making up for lost time. Since we're still friends, I'll be hearing stories of all the guys she leaves in her wake.
 

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What are you waiting for? Start dating and dumping attractive girls NOW. Fight the good fight, brothers.
 

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evansblue said:
Throughout high school, college, work friends, etc. I can't name ONE SINGLE exception where the attractive girl was dumped. I mean, it's almost unheard of. I'd say 90% of guys on this forum are here because their girl bailed.

This just goes to show you that guys are way more clingy than girls and get way to complacent in their dating lives. It's a startling statistic.
Not always true. I can honestly say looking in my past 10 years of dating and relationships that I did all the dumping. And the women ranged from a 7 to an 8.5.

Like one of the posters suggested, women like to make the dumping formal and are more communicative. Guys just dissappear when they think the relationship is going nowhere or they just dont like the girl anymore.
 

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st_99 said:
Its true that hot girls do not get dumped. Those are just the facts of life.

Its like a girl wanting so bad to be able to kick the crap out of a guy, its never
going to happen, they just need to accept that.

I've dumped a couple hot girls. Mainly because they were crazy b*tches or boring as hell.

Think about it this way - You date a hot chick, you bang her a couple times, what's left? You certainly don't need to keep her around forever just because she's hot. Once you know you can get one hot girl, you know you can go get others. Preferably ones who are less crazy or boring than your current one.

I would say that evansblue has women issues. And he's trying to project them onto all mankind. But that's not the case. Sure, I've been dumped before...but as far as who-dumps-who, I'm still far ahead.


gaspipe said:
Like one of the posters suggested, women like to make the dumping formal and are more communicative. Guys just dissappear when they think the relationship is going nowhere or they just dont like the girl anymore.
You nailed it.
 

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Ive never been dumped by a chick before, but if I ever have been dumped before I would say something to her right after she dumped me so powering that she would think about me every day and know that she did the wrong thing by dumping me and that she made a huge mistake. But dont take her back, trust me
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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iwanttofight said:
Ive never been dumped by a chick before, but if I ever have been dumped before I would say something to her right after she dumped me so powering that she would think about me every day and know that she did the wrong thing by dumping me and that she made a huge mistake. But dont take her back, trust me
Example?
 

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evansblue said:
Throughout high school, college, work friends, etc. I can't name ONE SINGLE exception where the attractive girl was dumped. I mean, it's almost unheard of. I'd say 90% of guys on this forum are here because their girl bailed.

This just goes to show you that guys are way more clingy than girls and get way to complacent in their dating lives. It's a startling statistic.
yes women do 90% of the dumping ... the 10% of males who are alpha can dump females cause they tend to have many other options..
 

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At then dont forget to dump her first when you know it is going nowhere, before she makes a move!
 

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exactly Papi!

I'll fess up to being mixed 40% alpha / 60% beta and I dumped my last girlfriend. I had no other plates/options either......I chose to dump her because I knew she would dump me the second she found a branch to swing to.

She didn't even see it coming.

It was awesome to watch her miss that branch and fall straight to the concrete I tell ya! :D
 
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I can. I have been officially "dumped" twice in my life. There were 2 another girls who decided to stop talking with me before we had anything that resembled a relationship. Every other girl, I've dumped.

Now, it was because of one of the girls who dumped me that I came here. And the reasons both of those girls dumped me was because I acted like a total AFC. Before I started getting serious about becoming better with women, I had very high standards with the women I dated. I was terrible at meeting women, but in the context of a relationship, I was somewhere between an upper AFC or a lower graduated AFC. I dumped some pretty hot girls. And it's just like what Iceberg said. Once you date a few hot girls, you realize it's not that big of a deal. So why settle for the crazy ones.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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