It's all becoming clearer now.

[AFK Protector]

Hello DJs, ladies, and fellow DJs in training:

I left a few months ago...maybe 2 months ago and set out on my own in the world with the knowledge I gained from this site and the wonderful people who make it what it is today. However, I needed actual experience, so I went on a kind of exodus from sosuave.com into the real world.

As you may, but mostly likely may not recall, I had a very bad case of oneitis. 5 years my friends. I thought I dropped it a few times, but it kept coming back. I think I've dropped it again and it may come back, but this is probably the final straw. It's not until you really see the games women play and experience it that you get tired of all this **** they feed us and smear in your skulls.

So let's have a recap shall we? oneitis breaks up with BF. Apparently she "dumped him." I'm thinking good thoughts. I keep being cool acting myself. I think I have a chance. I ask her out for Thanksgiving...but guess what? She's going over her "ex"'s house to spend Thanksgiving and maybe the night (yeah. heard it loud and clear). I say something like, "so you're not really ex's eh? I thought you dumped him." She goes, "well, you see it was kinda mutual." What a bag of horse ****. Mutual my ass. You never broke up.

Here's what I learned:

I was getting too damn cool for her comfort and she decided to pull this **** on me to reel me back in. It worked. It's ****ing pitiful guys. I've justcome bcak and I saw 2 particular threads that caught my eye. 1 was about visiting her EX and ****. The other was about women not being special and giving a damn about you.

Well, both are very true. If she's still hanging around her ex, then he's not really her ex. Once again, tell her manipulative ass to choose you or him. If she wants to play both of you, bail out faster than you can say "**** that." If you still think women really give a damn about you, especially in high school, wake the **** up. No one gives a **** about you in high school. People treat you the way they do because they all want something from you. You know this is true because we've all done it. So, if we do it, wouldn't it be fair to assume others use this "tactic" as well?

Many ppeople in high school are there to mess with your head and use you for tests, homework, social status, money, and college. A few maniacs are fanatical about this college business trying t ot screw you over with every chance they get. We all look out for ourselves...or should. The chumps, AFCs, nice guys (whatever, it's all the same) are the ones at the bottom that get used and abused. They don't get a part of the pie. Don't be that. It can be blunt, it can be subtle, but people will try to use you so watch yourself out there.

The girl you like isn't special. She might seem special to you because you're blinded by lust. Once again, I urge you to wake the fuk up. She doesn't give a damn about you. She knows she can pull you in with a smile. She knows a flash of her panties will make you lose sleep. She seems innocent, but trust me, she knows all this. And she will use it to her advantage. No woman is innocent in HS. No woman is there to help you in HS. No woman is "there for you" because they give a crap.

I don't care if these are generalizations because you know what? They're true for 99% of cases we experience. You might be that lucky one that gets your dream girl and ride into the sunset, but for the rest of us, it will always be a dream. A dream that we must crush and destroy with all our might. A dream that we must snap out of because reality isn't like that.

well, I hope everyone here has been doing well, and happy Thanksgiving.

 

[DJoneday]

It seems to me like with this mindset you'd be paranoid all the time as opposed to laid back and happy...

Bitter maybe?

Sure some girl might be after you for social status, or a confidence boost, but what are you after her for? Sex? Social status? Lets face it, you're using her as much as she's using you.

You can be on your guard and make sure you don't let yourself care too much - true

But don't let it get in the way of your happiness or outlook on life, because it's a pretty dismal one.

 

[AFK Protector]

Yeah man. You hit it right on the head. I am bitter. Who isn't after they get played for 5 years? lol.

Anyways, nice guys are blind to this "people trying to use them" observation. They think everyone's actions are natural and pure. I'm just giving a warning in the form of my bad experience to them about these people.

As for using them...I'd never use someone like they used me. F that. Plus, sex isn't me "using" them. I'm giving them my time, energy, and pleasure in exchange for the same. It's equal. i'm not using them at all.

Finally, on my attitude issue. It's just for tonight I promise . I just had to get it all out so it doesn't build up you know. Hell I've been gone for a while.

Take it easy DJoneday

 

[AFK Protector]

Oh yeah. I almost forgot to tell you all. I'm doing great in school now. I really shot ahead in all my classes. I cold approached maybe 20 chicks and got to know a whole bunch of new people. I walk through the hallways with at least 2 people greeting me and I greeting them every few seconds. It feels good to have everyone looking over thinking "wow who's that guy that knows everyone?" I retook control of my workout routine. I'm running 15 min every morning now waking up about 30 min early. I also began lifting again and put on 3-4 lbs of muscle (just started ).

Now with this oneitis issue solved (or at least temporarily), I feel like my life is back on track.

DJoneday, looks like that bitter attitude went away before tonight lol.

 

[AC/DC]

You're right. Women serve themselves.

In a sense, we do too. When we understand that life aint perfect, and reality comes and beats your ass, then we can finally grow into men.

To grow, we need to DEAL with it and DOMINATE it. I've been screwed over plenty of times. Yeah I'm bitter about it.

But I feel nothing about it anymore. I am a senior in high school. I have fun wherever I go, have a good time, fill my head with good happy memories, so that when **** goes down, I have something or someone to lean on. Women are not one of those things. My best friend was a girl. We were gonna spend labor day weekend together. All of a sudden, she's gone for the whole weekend. Then sunday night I see my neighbor drive up, and she gets out of his car. They went camping without either telling me.

I always considered them good people. That girl was ALWAYS there for me and me for her. Why would she do it? Cuz she's self serving just like everyone else.

I come to understand it. I see girls, I'm a happy boy. I spit my game, get some numbers, get some action maybe, and I'm pretty happy. I've learned not to depend on women for happiness. Satisfaction? Yes, but not happiness, unless you've really found "the one".

Just relax guys. You don't need to deal with any of it. Be happy, and use women. Make yourself satisfied. If you don't care about yourself, no one but your true boys will.