"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Its all about SELF IMPROVEMENT

ballinNY

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Self Improvement is what life is all about. You must obtain a passion for your life and everything that it obtains. The moment you wake up is when the improvement starts. The funny thing is each and everyday you feel a little more confident and a little better. You must figure out what EXACTLY you want to improve and commit your life to it. An example of this is obtaining your dream career, improving your body and most importantly improving your social skills. A KEY lesson I have learned on social skills is not caring what people think about you. When you care what people think about you everything will be out of wack TRUST ME. I have lived most of my life caring what other people think and that is why I dont have huge divedends to show for it. When you care what people think you normally process NEGATIVE thoughts and expectations thus expressing these thoughts when you interact with the desired person. That is why it is so critical to not care what people think. Hope this helps and any contribution to my thoughts would be great. I love learning!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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A lot of people say "Don't care what people think". I'll admit it's one of my biggest problems. However, saying that is like telling a depressed person to stop feeling upset. It really does nothing unless you tell someone exactly how to do it. Sh*t if I could just not care what people think, most of my problems would be solved. Know what I mean? I mean if you really wanted to give great advice it would be exactly how you stopped caring what people think.

Other than that I agree with your advice, it's just not anything we haven't heard before.
 
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