"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It's all about leaving your comfort zone!

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This is the most important thing to remember in being successful with women. You are not going to be successful with women if you always play it safe and fight off the anxiety instead of challenging it!

For example,

Feel like striking up a converstation with that cute girl in the cafeteria..it can be done, but it is not going to come without you feeling some sort of uncomfort in doing so.

Feel like asking that cute girl who is sitting by herself if you could join her....you can do it, but it is not going to come without you feeling some sort of comfort in doing so.

Feel like asking that girl you have only talked to twice for her number...it can be done..but it will not come with some feeling of uncomfort in doing so..

CATCH MY DRIFT!!

If you notice you are not putting yourself in uncomfortable, anxiety and risk taking situations, you ARE NOT trying hard enough.

I know this is alot easier said than done, but it is the truth. I still struggle with this myself..as you can tell from my posts.

Remember guys....you can look like Matthew McCounaghey and have an MBA from Harvard...but if you never try and leave your comfort zone....you will not get any women.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I agree mahon(ey?)

I wish I could make a list of my comfort zones, and just make games of breaking them! I did at the start of the year, but than I got caught up in my comfort zone:(

Aw I feel like such a loser!
 
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there's more truth here than meets the eye

I decided until Easter i'd give up my comfort zone... There were only 2 girls i was going to ask out, so i went on a mission to find out if they were avalible. I asked one of their friends about them and found out one of them was 'kinda' seeing some one in another state. So I nexted her and crossed her off the long list of avalible women. Easy.

Earlier that day i decided that I was going to chat up some random chick just for the hell of it. By the end of the day this chick was giving me high interest signs. I did the classic i have to leave so why don't you give me your number. She emailed me the next day...lol. This chick wasn't even on my list! Unfortunately I've found out that she's not ready for much, cause she just broke up with her x. Lol.. I'll be nexting her soon most likely, but I'm playing it out to see where it goes. That still leaves one left... but,

I went to my favorite store and started to chat up the clerk. Guess what, she couldn't keep her eyes of me. So there's one more. I think in the end you have to give up being in the comfort zone. It's the only way you'll ever get what you want. You also have to except that not every girl you meet is going to be as into you as you are her.

So I'd like to add to this advice of stepping out of your comfort zone this:
Keepit light, have some fun, protect your heart, and don't give a sh!t what might happen until it does, because you'll never know unti you take a risk to get what you want.

ADKdj
 
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