"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It's a turn off

guywhoneedshelp

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As many of you may know I live in the suburbs and while it is expensive as all hell to live in this area many of the girls 18-22 survive because they are spoiled as all hell, which results in them acting like stuck up b!tches and many of them aren't open to meeting new people.

With that said, what is with girls and MySpace? Why is it that they all post pictures of themselves holding beer bottles in their hands, with such a drunk looking disgusting face on them? Are they trying to imitate the lifestyles of all those celebrities they idolize, such as Paris Hilton or Lauren from the Hills? Seriously.

Every girl I meet seems great for casual sex but never relationship worthy. They seem to use MySpace as a means to prove they have a life, and want to get as many people to comment on their pictures/profile all the while seeking narcissistic attention. To me it is a huge turn off. It's so unclassy to see a girl walking around with a beer bottle, I mean come on. The moment I see that I really have just lost interest.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I agree. Unfortunately most good looking girls are attention-wh0res. Girls are all about status, gossip and all that junk. However I've noticed that this is mostly a phase with younger girls. As they get older, usually past 26, they start maturing and start taking life more serious. But you can still find good looking girls that don't seem as wh0rish, though it's pretty rare in todays day and age.
 

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I met a girl that seemed nice. Very studious, sophisticated, maybe more than just a fvck buddy. Saw her Facebook, revealed to me her true side.

Even when I get in a relationship with someone. It's such a turn off to know that they used to be this party/slut/***** who has sex they don't remember and found their happiness at the bottom of a bottle for years...

It is rare in todays day and age. Even the Christian girls...

so yea I party and do all that whatever but I mean I'm a man. There used to be a day where American girls sat at home waiting for the phone to ring hahah if we could only go back...
 

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I agree, as well. Excessive drinking itself is a turn off for me. It shows a lack of responsibility, IMO. Those girls are great for a hook up, but every relationship I've gotten into with these types of girls ends up with me banging my head against the wall due to immaturity on their part. What a headache. Plus, all that narcissism is just a result of low self-esteem... like they need the world to qualify them.

I'll take a classy, responsible, confident, independent girl anyday. Players can have the attention *****s.
 

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Oh no doubt DeePee.

As a player, yea, I go out with these alcoholic slobs. Took a girl to the movies last night. She's hot, but she just drinks and parties and really has no ambition.

Was in a relationship with a girl who didn't go to school, didn't work, went to bed at 6AM, etc. Not doing that again.

If the day comes along when yea, the classy, responsible, confident, independent girl and I are having some chemistry. Sure, I'll take it. Relationship. Give it a try.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It all depends. If you find party girls attractive dont be surprised that once you get to know them they're not as mentally healthy as you might have imagined.
Party girls, for the most part, do not value relationships as much as they value casual sex and multiple partners.

It also depends on where you're looking. Party girls are all about attention, and what better place to get attention from people than at clubs, bars, and parties. The chances of finding a "good" conservative girl are against you at these places. Those girls are mostly at home, walking in the park, or at the library. Also, in my experience, these girls don't usually care for having a myspace page.
 

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I agree with all of you, i have seen many girls myspaces and facebooks that i know and most of them have pictures with alcohol or posing slutty with their friends.
 

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These girls aren't good for anything other than banging.

Honestly I find it alarming that there are 10,000 of women that are attention *****s.
 

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Finding a " classy, responsible, confident, independent " girl is proving to be a mindboggling challenge.

I mean, 95% of the chicks i know are party girls (Then again i used to party hard myself so that's who i got to know).

the other 5% are either A: Fat/Ugly/Reptilian, or B: Already engaged/stable boyfriend/Asexual.

Not that i'm looking for a relationship right now, but i want to know where they hell they are so i can sarge there!!
 

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Uhh..good luck finding what youre looking for, cause i doubt its out there. Instead...put it in em and skeet.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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guywhoneedshelp said:
so yea I party and do all that whatever but I mean I'm a man. There used to be a day where American girls sat at home waiting for the phone to ring hahah if we could only go back...
awww :p
 

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Have you seen the video "Green day - Wake me up when september ends"? I think you will fall in love with a girl like that. Or Sarah from Prison Break. I like her too. So I see what you mean. No worries mate, times are changing, keep gaming, you will find some cool yet quality girls in no time. Do more day game, or once you get a good social network built up, some girls you meet in clubs can bring some of their "good" girlfriends to your parties, so you never know. Keep gaming bro.. :rockon:


PS: As for myself, at least atm, I'm pretty open to all sorts of debauchery :D
 

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I don't mind a girl that drinks beer, or even parties a little. I just don't like it when they can't control anything they do or say because they are too drunk. Nothing wrong with being social and catching a buzz, but when you don't know how to maintain that and fly right past that point to where you can hardly walk or talk, I totally agree. Not attractive.
 
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