"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Demodulate

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well I let an ex get the better of me the other night...

She txt's out of the blue and wants to know if I want to go out with her.. I agree to meet her out after I take care of some stuff.. Show up.. bug hug and kiss.. she is with 4 other guys.. I should of just left then, but I suck it up, and about 5 minutes later they all leave for various reasons.. so its just me and the ex.. we go have a drink at another bar and on the way over she sees some guy she "doesnt want to see".. we arrive at another club and she starts in on the "you dont love me any more" etc.. etc.. at this point I explain how I felt about her and pretty much AFC chumped it up.. about 2 drinks later she starts with the texting.. and then tells me we can leave whenever.. and that she feels obligated to go see the guy she didnt originally want to see at some other bar..

well I had it at that point and told her to take a hike.. she was pissed and said i would be calling her to apologize later that night.. of course I have no intention of doing it..

should of never went out with her.. and I am thoroughly aggravated with myself for how I handled it.. I get so irrational around her..

so.. two thumbs down for hanging out with ex's...

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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It's hard...you want to give them the benefit of the doubt...assume they're just socially stupid and don't know any better. But as soon as she showed up with 4 other men, you probably should've made an excuse to eject.

But then, you shouldn't be messing with exes anyway, really.
 
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My BPD ex is calling again and wants a date. She is calling because I encouraged it and sent her AFC texts confessing my love to her just for fun to see what happens.

That was a couple weeks ago, and I have moved on but still make her laugh whenever we communicate and now she wants to cash in on my undying love for her which isn't really love, it's just infatuation because she is such a freak.

I'm going to see her again but the ending is not going to be pretty because she is going to try and get serious I think.
 
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