It's a puzzle to me !

[aus01]

Hi, awesome forum!

Okay, so let me begin.. Sorry for the long post, but didn't want to miss something that might be important

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Background
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The first time I met her was through mutual friends, we didn't really talk much, second time we met we had a blast. She added her number to my phone and added me on fb. From there on she almost always (90% of the time) initiated contact. So we started texting a lot. She always replied and I made sure I always end the conversation and don't respond to quick.

I asked her to grab a drink with me but she said she couldn't make it that night. I've waited a week and asked her again, she complied, was a short date at a lounge but ended up kissing. (She later texted, thanking me for the night)

Another week passed, still texting me and I asked her on another date. Again she had plans.. however, she later invited me to her "plan" which was a party with her friends, lots of kino and we ended up kissing again (she didn't really spent time with them, most of the time being around me.)

Later the week we "bumped" (we knew that both of us will be there) into each other, she spent a lot of time at our table but had to go back to her friends later on. After a while she texted me saying sorry for leaving without saying goodbye and that she feels horrible, but her lift was leaving.

Two days after that we went out again with another *couple*. It was a bit boring imo. Some short kisses and kino but nothing much. However, this time when she thanked me for the night she added kisses to the msg (know it sounds fvucking lame) which not me or she did before.

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Problem
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So I thought so far so good. Well.. Then the day after that I texted her wishing her good luck with something. She only replied after 18hours, also saying sorry but she was very busy.

I didn't make a big deal out of it and replied to her the following day.
We've chatted a bit but then the conversation went dull and I never replied to her last msg. That same night I went out with 4 other girls (which she probably knew about).. She then later texted me good night with kisses. I didn't reply because I'm not going to stand around in a club typing on my phone

Next day I texted her, led into a conversation (which wasn't too exciting), asked her on a date but she replied only 6 hours later saying sorry but she already have plans but next time. I said sure no problem, might have sound bit irritated.

I texted here the following day about something that reminded me of her and that she should enjoy her day.. got a bit of boring msg back 5 hours later.

I'm not exactly sure what's going on here? Is she losing interest, going cold ? Is she getting back at me ? Am I fvucking things up, I actually like her.

For what it's worth:
- Don’t think she has all the experience in the world
- She's only 19
- She's never not replied to a text

Thanks

 

[RedZone]

In my opinion, the texting conversations are getting you nowhere fast. That's why I try to stay away from them. It always seems like the same pattern...after a certain amount of texts the convo's get boring and stale. I would really only text to ask her to hang out. Also, I wouldn't advise texting her about how something reminded you of her, especially when your not close to dating.

 

[aus01]

Thanks for reply.. So what do you suggest I do next ? Just ignore the her text or end the conversation politely ?

 

[SgtSplacker]

Next time I went out with her I would try to get in her head a little. Figure out if there's anyone else in her life. Try to take things to the next level with her. Invite her out but give her plenty of time so she doesn't have plans already and try to seal the deal before she thinks you're weird and really starts to loose IL. Kind of a tough call she seems interested, but it doesn't seem you are connecting enough...

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Your starting to chase; notice how you are initiating the texts most of the time now.

Secondly, when you ask a girl out, give her some options!

"hey lets get together sometime this week; I'm free Tuesday and Wednesday; which day works for you?"

If you call and ask her out for the next day, she will likely have plans as you are finding out.

This girl likes you, (duhhh); but your lack of understanding of game and how to set up dates is leading you to think otherwise.

Chill out a bit, let her start coming back to you otherwise she will lose attraction.







PIMP

 

[Big Pappy]

Read what Pimpsicle says.

Don't read this - scroll back up and re-read what Pimpsicle tells you.