It's a Numbers game, and men will usually lose

[bigguns22]

I read a great book the other day titled "The Great Female Con". It had a lot of great insight into the pysche of women and why they act the way they do. One point of particular interest revolved around the subject of "options". Basically, the more options a person has, the less shyt they'll put up with and the more picky they become.

In our world, women are almost always going to have more options than men. You can lie to yourself all you want, but no matter how good looking of a guy you are, women will always have more dating and romantic options than you. It's the way modern society and nature has it planned.

As the book says, 50 years ago this wasn't the case. Women were not looked highly upon if they were a divorcee. But now, it's just common place. Women have men throwing themselves at them on a daily basis. Why would they put up with any shyt from you when they have 40 guys clammering for their attention. And ya, I know what you'll say about how you can make yourself be a challenge and all that, but honestly, most women who are attractive won't care. They have so many other options, that you just don't matter that much.

It's not just attractive women either. Marginal looking women have many more options than most good looking guys. Most men have higher sex drives, therefore, they'll always be chasing women more than the other way around.
Seriously guys, the chances of your marriage lasting a lifetime these days is very small. Women aren't like they used to be and men aren't either.

 

[The Bat]

Guys with your type of attitude is exactly why guys like me enjoy success with women on a consistent basis, day in and day out.

So thank you, my friend.

 

[Alle_Gory]

You can lie to yourself all you want, but no matter how good looking of a guy you are, women will always have more dating and romantic options than you.

That is true, but you forget about the QUALITY of the options available.

I agree with you, there's no shortage of greasy old men for chicks to date. Now if you'll excuse me I have to go look good at the gym.

 

[Captain]

That's a good point. If I approach 10 women at the mall, I'll only get a couple of numbers. Statistically, odds are against men. You can improve these odds significantly.

@the bat: it's not really an attitude, he's just stating the facts.
@Alle Gory: good point here too, the better you look, and the better your game is, the better your chance of picking up a girl.

 

[Kal0051]

the OP is right about some things. Average women do have more options than average guys (notice I wrote average). And it is a numbers game to a point. Obviously improving your game or making yourself more attractive will give you more options.

 

[EvilAgenda]

A woman has an option of choosing 1 out of 20 men who've approached her.

A man has an option of choosing 1 out of 300 women to approach.

That's my view on the odds.

 

[goodfoot]

I like your mindset EvilAgenda.

 

[Rhoto]

So I'm curious, whats the point of this thread? These facts are self-evident.

The notion that men want sex more than women is a big, fat lie. Society pressures have forced women to repress their sexuality and take on a more dominant male role. Women love sex. And want it, often.

Options are only options if ACTED upon. Women get more offers, but that's not the same as an option. At a certain point offers become white noise. Do you read all your spam mail? At some point women develop an auto-response to the typical schmuck.

Divorcee's are still looked down upon by me because they have a lack of good judgment. Simple. You should know what you're getting into before you sign the line, mind you, men (at least in CA) shoulder ALL the risk in a marriage.

My point is this - Does this really matter? Or should you just focus on becoming a better person and finding someone who values you for you?

.02

 

[Bible_Belt]

the more options a person has, the less shyt they'll put up

Agreed, but it works both ways.

And if you have enough options, then it is really an irrelevant point that an attractive woman might have more options than you. If you are busy getting laid, then you should not notice or care.

 

[HardTimes]

So why do you think it's so different 50 years ago? What exactly has empowered women to give them more options?

 

[Jitterbug]

EvilAgenda, I like that mindset.

So why do you think it's so different 50 years ago? What exactly has empowered women to give them more options?

IMO, three things:

1: Financial independence
2: Information age
3: Mobility

#1 is pretty obvious. They don't have to rely on men for money anymore so there's less incentive for them. Prior to that, women had sexual power and men had financial power (plus a lot more social power). The playing field was more or less equal, or arguably better on the men's side.

#2 & #3: before the modern information age, women usually stayed where they grew up. They still knew the value of their beauty but it was restricted to the local area. Now with the media, the Internet and the ease of moving to another city or even country, they can move around and make the best out of it. That's why now you have cities full of beautiful women from all over the country or the world (like LA or NY) competing for the few top men. Over 50 years ago, they were still going for the top men, but the competition was less fierce and there were a more even distribution of attractive women.

 

[HardTimes]

Hmmm I see, that makes a lot of sense.

Is there anyway for men to get their power back or at least have an even playing field? Or are we screwed forever?

 

[Jitterbug]

Collectively, men are disadvantaged nowadays but it doesn't mean that YOU have to be the same as the average Joe. That's why you're on this site learning DJ sh!t - you don't want to waste time on this just to be average, do you? Keep stacking the cards in your favour.