Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Italian mature men you would chose as an example

jhonny9546

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Hi friends! Johnny here!

I'd like to ask you if, in your imagination and experience, there's an Italian man you'd call a "mature man", or someone you could look up to, like you admire.
I'm really curious to know, since we all come from different countries, if anyone has a contemporary Italian character they like.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm German, and we mostly consider Italians "the funny guys with good food". Most people don't take Italians too seriously because you guys are "easy going" and therefore "hard to take seriously" (no offense).

Most people I know prefer eating Italian food way over our own country's cuisine, including myself. Mostly for that single reason, you are well liked overall. Even by rightwing extremists (lol).

But, "mature man", from my perspective as a stereotypical German, I don't think I have ever met anyone. Even at the time, I was on vacation in Italy. You guys seem to beat around the bush way too much instead of just getting to the point.

The part we admire most is your general lifestyle. We are all about efficiency, and you seem to be the polar opposite in that regard.
It's like you prioritize enjoying life, while we try to "succeed" in life. Kind of ironic, because enjoying life means succeeding. Publicly we say enjoying oneself is lazy, but secretly most people admire this, I think.
 

BaronOfHair

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Hi friends! Johnny here!

I'd like to ask you if, in your imagination and experience, there's an Italian man you'd call a "mature man"...
De Niro's an octagenerian as of this writing, though referring to him as "mature"

May be more of a stretch than referring to downtown Karachi as The Subcontinent's South Beach
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bokanovsky

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I'm German, and we mostly consider Italians "the funny guys with good food". Most people don't take Italians too seriously because you guys are "easy going" and therefore "hard to take seriously" (no offense).

Most people I know prefer eating Italian food way over our own country's cuisine, including myself. Mostly for that single reason, you are well liked overall. Even by rightwing extremists (lol).

But, "mature man", from my perspective as a stereotypical German, I don't think I have ever met anyone. Even at the time, I was on vacation in Italy. You guys seem to beat around the bush way too much instead of just getting to the point.

The part we admire most is your general lifestyle. We are all about efficiency, and you seem to be the polar opposite in that regard.
It's like you prioritize enjoying life, while we try to "succeed" in life. Kind of ironic, because enjoying life means succeeding. Publicly we say enjoying oneself is lazy, but secretly most people admire this, I think.
On a general level, this stereotype holds some truth but as with most things, your mileage may vary. I've met Italians whom most would consider to be "serious people" (i.e. engineers, scientists, doctors, etc.) Similarly, I've met plenty of Germans who are the polar opposite of efficiency.

I personally think the reason why the German society is so organized and structured has less to do with Germans being serious people and more with a culturally ingrained respect for authority and propensity to follow rules. Where some more libertarian-minded nations may regard rules as a necessary evil, the Germans seem to love them. Even rules that hardly make any sense. They follow rules for the sake of following rules, which explains the Nazis and the rapidly unravelling experiment known as the EU (which was essentially created by Germans).
 
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