That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
speakeasy said:Yeah, what the hell is causing the stock market and oil to be rallying like this? It makes no sense. There's no more good news out there now then there was several months ago. The economy isn't adding any jobs, we're still in deep recession with no end in sight, the housing market is still in the doldrums, WTF is causing the markets to rally??? Oil is especially pissing me off. Gas has gone up by like 50cents around here in the past month. This sh*t is getting out of control!
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm not a financial guy so I don't understand all this "shorting" stuff.Wiesman44 said:buy the rumor, sells the news, and vice versa: sell the rumor, buy the news.
In this case the rumor was 'bad news' , so you short. Now, the news is in, so you buy. classic short covering by the big players which in turn creates a rally.
Think about it, you are a large hedge fund with a heavy short position, and you're banking on GM to fail. GM fails. Now you exit, while you can which means you are 'buying' from all the little guys that are selling. This pushes up the market.
Also, your other question about gas. Economy is showing signs of promise, and when that happens, people buy oil.
Bible_Belt said:Other than making a good small-block V8 and decent full-size trucks, which they have always done, I have found pretty much every GM auto to be a piece of junk. When their cars hit 120,000 miles, they just fall apart and are worth next to nothing if resold as used cars. People will buy high-mileage Honda, Toyota, and Nissan. Those cars last twice as long. When I was 18, I wanted a truck. I almost got a Chevy S10. Instead, I got a Nissan. 250,000 miles later...I still have that truck - runs great. I bet the S10 that I didn't buy was crushed for scrap years ago.
Oh brother, I can't believe in this day and age of fast and easy information that we're still here painting entire industries with such a broad brush??Bible_Belt said:Other than making a good small-block V8 and decent full-size trucks, which they have always done, I have found pretty much every GM auto to be a piece of junk. When their cars hit 120,000 miles, they just fall apart and are worth next to nothing if resold as used cars. People will buy high-mileage Honda, Toyota, and Nissan. Those cars last twice as long. When I was 18, I wanted a truck. I almost got a Chevy S10. Instead, I got a Nissan. 250,000 miles later...I still have that truck - runs great. I bet the S10 that I didn't buy was crushed for scrap years ago.
Only Tiger Woods, my grandma and my mom want a buick.speakeasy said:Oh brother, I can't believe in this day and age of fast and easy information that we're still here painting entire industries with such a broad brush??
There are a zillion thorough reliability reports out there for every make of car there is. Not all American brands are crap and not all Japanese brands are good. You'd be better off in a Buick than you would be in a Mazda as far as reliability. I drive a Volkswagen Jetta and I love the car, but the reliability is lower than almost every American car. American cars have improved markedly in the last few decades. But the preceptions from the 70s and 80s are still in the public conscious. Most people don't even know that American cars have fewer problems reported than European cars. They probably think that just because it's expensive and exotic, and from overseas, it must automatically be better.
http://money.cnn.com/2007/08/08/autos/jdpa_dependability/index.htm
Buick ranks right up there with Lexus with reliability. Cadillac and Mercury are very high up too for example. Just because the car is from an American company doesn't mean you can label it as inferior in reliability. I'd rather drive through the middle of nowhere in a Cadillac than a Suzuki or Mitsubishi anyday. Yeah, Lexus, Honda and Toyoto may be top notch, but not all Japanese cars are at the level.
I totally agree. I've seen a lot of GM cars, probably more than imports, with 150K, 200K and even 300K or more miles. The junkyards are full of Japanese cars and a lot of them with not that many miles.speakeasy said:Oh brother, I can't believe in this day and age of fast and easy information that we're still here painting entire industries with such a broad brush??
There are a zillion thorough reliability reports out there for every make of car there is. Not all American brands are crap and not all Japanese brands are good. You'd be better off in a Buick than you would be in a Mazda as far as reliability. I drive a Volkswagen Jetta and I love the car, but the reliability is lower than almost every American car. American cars have improved markedly in the last few decades. But the preceptions from the 70s and 80s are still in the public conscious. Most people don't even know that American cars have fewer problems reported than European cars. They probably think that just because it's expensive and exotic, and from overseas, it must automatically be better.
http://money.cnn.com/2007/08/08/autos/jdpa_dependability/index.htm
Buick ranks right up there with Lexus with reliability. Cadillac and Mercury are very high up too for example. Just because the car is from an American company doesn't mean you can label it as inferior in reliability. I'd rather drive through the middle of nowhere in a Cadillac than a Suzuki or Mitsubishi anyday. Yeah, Lexus, Honda and Toyoto may be top notch, but not all Japanese cars are at the level.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
There's nothing ludricrous about my post bud. I've heard people for years make snide comments about UAW making x dollars an hour..Cr1msonKing said:Ketostix, your post was ludicrous.
Well people should be angry that their american standard of living is dropping continuously. The imports are not better cars and definitely not better companies.You seemed more motivated by anger that consumers are buying better cars from better companies.
the thing is you can't even give that much creedence to consumer reports. Perception is reality. There's been cars manufatured in the same plant and parts and the same assembly line and workers and the only real difference was one was branded American and the other Japanese and the difference between the consumer reports reporting high reliability to the import was more than the average between an entirely American model and one that was entirely Japanese. So obviously these reports by consumers can be very inaccurate. Once something is common perception, it doesn't matter what reality actually is. I don't get my beliefs from the media reports. I base them on extensive knowledge of how cars work and experience with cars.speakeasy said:People get too caught up in the hype and stereotypes when they should be looking at the consumer reports.
ketostix said:the thing is you can't even give that much creedence to consumer reports. Perception is reality. There's been cars manufatured in the same plant and parts and the same assembly line and workers and the only real difference was one was branded American and the other Japanese and the difference between the consumer reports reporting high reliability to the import was more than the average between an entirely American model and one that was entirely Japanese. So obviously these reports by consumers can be very inaccurate. Once something is common perception, it doesn't matter what reality actually is. I don't get my beliefs from the media reports. I base them on extensive knowledge of how cars work and experience with cars.
Well anyway the Korean automakers and soon the chinese are going to do unto the Japanese/European like the Japanese/European did unto the US based auto industry lol. The US economy will be the one getting shafted the worst though. At least the Japanese have the good sense not to let foreigners come in and take a share of their domestic auto market, unlike us.
There are reports that will show how many problems a given model had on average during it's first 5 years for example. That's pretty straightforward.ketostix said:the thing is you can't even give that much creedence to consumer reports. Perception is reality. There's been cars manufatured in the same plant and parts and the same assembly line and workers and the only real difference was one was branded American and the other Japanese and the difference between the consumer reports reporting high reliability to the import was more than the average between an entirely American model and one that was entirely Japanese. So obviously these reports by consumers can be very inaccurate. Once something is common perception, it doesn't matter what reality actually is. I don't get my beliefs from the media reports. I base them on extensive knowledge of how cars work and experience with cars.
Well anyway the Korean automakers and soon the chinese are going to do unto the Japanese/European like the Japanese/European did unto the US based auto industry lol. The US economy will be the one getting shafted the worst though. At least the Japanese have the good sense not to let foreigners come in and take a share of their domestic auto market, unlike us.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.