"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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'It was fun talking to you today'

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Woman is abroad, coming to town in about a month...

She says 'It was fun talking to you today' as we're saying bye...

Now, I see this as a good sign, but have no idea how to keep it up... A month without being able to meet the girl, no possibility for kino etc.. I have no idea how to keep her IL up!

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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styleman said:
Woman is abroad, coming to town in about a month...

She says 'It was fun talking to you today' as we're saying bye...

Now, I see this as a good sign, but have no idea how to keep it up...
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To be honest,I don't know it her saying "It was fun talking to you today" was a good sign or not. Kinda hard to tell,because I don't what the mood,vibe,and/or the conversation was leading up to her saying it.

However,assuming it was a good thing,then just keep doing whatever it was you've been doing. Why try to switch up and experiement doing something else other than what has gotten you this positive response? Also,use that time you have left until you see each other again sparingly. In other words,don't call her or text her everyday,and when you do talk with her,get her emotional. Make her feel something. This way she won't wait to be able to see you again.
 
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Igetit! said:
To be honest,I don't know it her saying "It was fun talking to you today" was a good sign or not. Kinda hard to tell,because I don't what the mood,vibe,and/or the conversation was leading up to her saying it.

However,assuming it was a good thing,then just keep doing whatever it was you've been doing. Why try to switch up and experiement doing something else other than what has gotten you this positive response? Also,use that time you have left until you see each other again sparingly. In other words,don't call her or text her everyday,and when you do talk with her,get her emotional. Make her feel something. This way she won't wait to be able to see you again.
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What are good ways to 'get her emotional'???
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What are good ways to 'get her emotional'???
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Well,the best way is to first be experiencing the emotion YOURSELF while you're talking to her. Take excitement for example: You call her on the phone,or she calls you,then you start off saying something like this:

You: Oh man! You'll NEVER guess what happened to me today. I could give you a hundred guesses,and I GUARANTEE you won't even come close to what happened.

There. Now if one of your friends called you on the phone and said this to you,what would you feel? Excitement? Curiosity? Anticipation?
Women THRIVE on this stuff. It's better than,"Hi,how are you? How have you been?".

That's just one emotion. Try to stir up others as well. This IS necessary to her wanting to see and spend time with you. If all your phone conversations are dull and boring,she'll assume that hanging out with you in person will be dull and boring too.

Just remember this: Make her FEEL SOMETHING.
 
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When someone ends a conversation like that, it seems to me like it's almost out of formality. I wouldn't read into it too much.
 
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When someone ends a conversation like that, it seems to me like it's almost out of formality. I wouldn't read into it too much.
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Yeah,that's kind of what I was thinking as well. That's why I said I didn't know if it was a good thing or not,because I don't know what the conversation was leading up to her saying that.
 
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OFWHAP said:
When someone ends a conversation like that, it seems to me like it's almost out of formality. I wouldn't read into it too much.
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Nah she's very forward... If she's not enthralled she tells me and leaves!
That's the least of my concerns.
 
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Nah she's very forward... If she's not enthralled she tells me and leaves!
That's the least of my concerns.
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So helpful advice based on what I've told appreciated, you don't need to read between the lines!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Remember, when you're a fun/awesome guy and she sees/knows that, just your unavailability makes you more attractive. You'll be that fantasy guy in the back of her mind.

All you would have to do is facebook message her once every other week till she got back. Remember, high value guys have limited time, that's all you need to know.

Don't worry about keeping her IL up that high, worry about how you perform in the given moment.

Hope that makes sense.
 
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Ya makes sense, thanks!

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Remember, when you're a fun/awesome guy and she sees/knows that, just your unavailability makes you more attractive. You'll be that fantasy guy in the back of her mind.

All you would have to do is facebook message her once every other week till she got back. Remember, high value guys have limited time, that's all you need to know.

Don't worry about keeping her IL up that high, worry about how you perform in the given moment.

Hope that makes sense.
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