It seems like to have a chance with a girl you have to be in her inner circle.

[Ringleader41]

If youre not in her social group than youre screwed. I try to talk to them but they dont give me the time of day. Yet, they start screwing around with guys that could shatter mirrors with their faces because theyre friends set them up and girls dont like being lonely. Even if you do luck up, its more likely to end soon because of the friends thing. Why cant girls date who **** ever they want to date without some friends approval.

 

[Ringleader41]

Im drunk right now, but in college and I just want a good solution to finding girls here. It just seems like girls dont give the majority number of guys a chance. Even good looking ones.

 

[user43770]

You don't need a social circle to get laid. All you have to do is be bold, sexual and unfazed by rejection.


Or you could get to work on building a social circle.

 

[Ringleader41]

You don't need a social circle to get laid. All you have to do is be bold, sexual and unfazed by rejection.


Or you could get to work on building a social circle.

I used to think that till I opened my eyes. Should I just try to become friends with a girl and use her to gain access to her friends. Yet, that isnt even a friendship and could be a hassle on my part. I cant put up dealing with female friends.

 

[rohitewebtech]

i m stuck with the same situation .....what can i do... can somone give a tip.

 

[Who Dares Win]

When you realize that 90% of women have a herd mentality which lead their evolution through millennia you will get many things.

As men we dont understand such things because staying in the group for us is the shortcut for mediocrity while for them is protection.

This works even now,50yrs of political correctness dont change a million years of evolution, so an average guy which is part of her group and is ACCEPTED from that group not only doesnt find himself sabotaged for being an external but in fact gets total support of her friends to keep the group united.

When you approach a girl in a already made group in a club you either manage to isolate her and use a very developed social intelligence or you will be sabotaged,c0ckblocked or even shamed only to see thos other girls who take her away to do their best to couple her to the goofy friend of their boyfriends.

In many times eveb before being accepted from the girl you like, you have to at least have her friends neutral to you, especially the alpha female which runs the group policies regarding girls.

 

[Mike32ct]

I wouldn't say your screwed if you aren't in her social circle, but it is generally a disadvantage to be an "outsider."

Men are different. We don't give a F which circle she is in.

Women, on the hand, have this almost incestuous side where the strongly prefer to F friends or friends of friends. Part of it is laziness on their part because they are used to doing zero work to get a guy, so they prefer the close low-hanging familiar fruit.

This isn't just a young college girl phenomenon. Even 30s and 40s women often date from work or some kind of familiar circle.

Being that I go for mature ladies, I strongly prefer lone wolves when I sarge. If she's out by herself, then she's a more independent and hopefully adventurous broad lol.

 

[Ringleader41]

So im suppose to infiltrate. Howwww

 

[Gunner26]

Most hookups at uni, at least in my experience are through friends, or friends of friends.

The majority of my mates, male and female, do not ge with randomers. Besides the 2 massive slags of my social group, theres only me and 2 other guys who will at the least make out with a random. People enjoy the comfort of knowing the person.

Not to say this is bad, it encourages me to make friends with everybody because it opens up doors to more females. It's true when they say it's not what you know, but who you know.

Not being in their social circle doesn't mean you are screwed though, it just means you have to put in a litle bit more work to get her comfortable with you.

Gunner