"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Whether she finds you attractive, whether she's some psycho ***** that **** hops constantly, and whether she is bombarded with options of high quality men. If they find you attractive than anything that comes out of your mouth is poetry to them. This guy I know is known as a creepy stalker to most girls, but he managed to get him a girlfrien. Why??? The only explanation I can come up with is that she finds him cute or something.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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lol.... if you think that then youre wrong. i thought that too. he's just spitting mad game, depending on how his gf looks.

you have the wrong mindset dude. i used to have the same mindset as you.. and its not good. change it. right now
 

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He's right to some extent, though. If a woman finds you attractive, she'll find a way to spin your words or actions into something positive. If she doesn't, those same actions will be spun into something negative.

With that said, there are ways to make you more attractive (other than looks) which should broaden your pool.
 

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Dhoulmagus said:
Whether she finds you attractive, whether she's some psycho ***** that **** hops constantly, and whether she is bombarded with options of high quality men. If they find you attractive than anything that comes out of your mouth is poetry to them. This guy I know is known as a creepy stalker to most girls, but he managed to get him a girlfrien. Why??? The only explanation I can come up with is that she finds him cute or something.
You, Sir are correct and have just won the internet!

You can crap on her mom's dinner plate and if she thinks you're cute, she'll blow you in the kitchen. Attraction is primal, raw, visceral, and trumps all. Later other issues come into play, but initially,,attraction is king.
 

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VladPatton said:
You, Sir are correct and have just won the internet!

You can crap on her mom's dinner plate and if she thinks you're cute, she'll blow you in the kitchen. Attraction is primal, raw, visceral, and trumps all. Later other issues come into play, but initially,,attraction is king.

I have to respectfully disagree. It will get your foot in the door, and even have girls hitting on you. And true, the good looking guy can get a way with a little more blue pill behavior, but, it's very easy for good looking guys to repel women as well. You'll see a lot of good looking guys dating down, or have LTR's with women that aren't as good looking as them. The HB8's or 9's that would be a match physically with an 8 or a 9 guy have so many options that, to keep one of them around, the good looking good would still need to have something else going for him. When I see and HB9 with her boyfriend, I usually see a guy who's more average in the looks department, but either has some wicked game, status, or some type of coolness/alphaness to him.

With that said, there are ways to make you more attractive (other than looks) which should broaden your pool.
Right, attraction. David D's famous introductory line: attraction is not a choice. For the most part women don't know why they're attracted to someone, they may think they do, but really they don't know, they just are.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I think a lot of girls, HB8+, date down because if they date a guy who is less good looking than they are he'll be less likely to stray. He also knows that he's dating up and appreciates her more. If they date a guy who is a 8+ himself in looks then they have to worry more because he's got more opportunity to cheat.
 

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GS750 said:
I think a lot of girls, HB8+, date down because if they date a guy who is less good looking than they are he'll be less likely to stray. He also knows that he's dating up and appreciates her more. If they date a guy who is a 8+ himself in looks then they have to worry more because he's got more opportunity to cheat.

Nah bro!!! its cuz women arent shallow!!1111 they are deep sophisticated beings! they care about how nice a guy is and his personalitiez!!! they aren't shallow like us men, yo!!

On the real, million reasons why a girl would date down.
 

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GS750 said:
I think a lot of girls, HB8+, date down because if they date a guy who is less good looking than they are he'll be less likely to stray. He also knows that he's dating up and appreciates her more. If they date a guy who is a 8+ himself in looks then they have to worry more because he's got more opportunity to cheat.
This would imply them using logic. What's the saying? A woman would rather share an Alpha...
 
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Peaks&Valleys said:
This would imply them using logic. What's the saying? A woman would rather share an Alpha...
That's when they're in their young slvt phase. As they mature and want to settle down, they seek out a beta provider. It's in their instincts and they can spot one from a mile away.
 

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That's when they're in their young slvt phase. As they mature and want to settle down, they seek out a beta provider. It's in their instincts and they can spot one from a mile away.
Maybe for some, but they still want the Alpha to pass their genes along.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DarkDetective50 said:
That's when they're in their young slvt phase. As they mature and want to settle down, they seek out a beta provider. It's in their instincts and they can spot one from a mile away.

hmm...


Would you marry an 8+ knowing the crap to come with it? We like to fvck eights and up, but rather settle down with a cute 6-7 in order to avoid the drama that comes with an overly beautiful woman.
 

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applegoo said:
hmm...


Would you marry an 8+ knowing the crap to come with it? We like to fvck eights and up, but rather settle down with a cute 6-7 in order to avoid the drama that comes with an overly beautiful woman.
Very good point. :up:
 

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If ur ugly....then ur ugly.....we r here to give u props, not a face lift
 

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Attraction gives a man the golden armor of puzzy.

But its the abilities and courage of the peasant to take on the man in the golden armor with just his tattered clothes and farming tools.
 

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Dhoulmagus said:
Whether she finds you attractive, whether she's some psycho ***** that **** hops constantly, and whether she is bombarded with options of high quality men. If they find you attractive than anything that comes out of your mouth is poetry to them. This guy I know is known as a creepy stalker to most girls, but he managed to get him a girlfrien. Why??? The only explanation I can come up with is that she finds him cute or something.
well usually girls have the final say in the beginning
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dating and job interviews are very similar. If you're unattractive or the girl ain't interested, you will, at best, prolong a rejection. At worst, you're annoying.
 

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nismo-4 said:
Dating and job interviews are very similar. If you're unattractive or the girl ain't interested, you will, at best, prolong a rejection. At worst, you're annoying.
and the more exes a guy has, the more attractive he is to girls, girls see a guy with exes as references just like an employer would when screening a candidate
 
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hmm...


Would you marry an 8+ knowing the crap to come with it? We like to fvck eights and up, but rather settle down with a cute 6-7 in order to avoid the drama that comes with an overly beautiful woman.
A lot of rich betas do that. It's called trophy wives. You'd also be surprised what the average beta put up with. Their reasoning is "As long as I have a 'chance' to f**k her pu$$y once a week, she can treat me however she wants".
 

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this thread is so obvious

the entire point of game is to get a girl attracted to you, once she's attracted you're pretty much done.

it's like saying that all that matters in a fight to the death is cardiac arrest in your opponent

EDIT: that's a surprisingly apt analogy, there's a thousand ways to put your opponent into cardiac arrest(from suffocation to decapitation) and likewise there are a thousand ways to get a girl attracted to you(looks, intelligence, humor, money, demeanor, manliness, athleticism, other forms of talent, height, fame, etc.)
 
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nismo-4 said:
Dating and job interviews are very similar. If you're unattractive or the girl ain't interested, you will, at best, prolong a rejection. At worst, you're annoying.
Yes, but you can be unattractive physically, but still have other attributes that are attractive.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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