"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It feels so stupid

we all eat food

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Well, i feel stupid just going up to some girl i dont know in the hallway and saying hi to them and talking to them for no reason. My sister told me that if i want to talk to a girl dont just go up to her and talk to her out of knowhere cause then your actin like a freak, and that you should some kinda of body language like smile before you say hi to them. I mean i think it would be better to talk to a girl thats in your class or in your study hall then some random chick in the hallway

anyone else agree comments.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I do it all the time, thats how you meet people!! New people, new spontanous people, fun new people! When I first started trying to aproach girls, yea it felt a bit awkward, but eventually i got over it, but when i aproach the girls do i feel stupid? no, even if I feel stupid I would still do it, just to try something new. Your just making excuses like everybody else, so you wont feel as bad when you chicken out of a role of a dj. Also listen to your sis, she told you to smile so remember to SMILE!
 

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Just apporch her and say "hows the book/the drink" whatever, it seems natural because your being friendly, your just talking LIKE A NORMAL HUMAN BEING!!!!
 

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You just have to learn the subtle signs of interest.

Looking at you twice is enough of a sign to provoke a conversation. Even then it doesn't take any signs at all. If they're reading a book ask them about that, etc.

People are so uncomfortable these days they don't know what a normal conversation is anymore.
 

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Well, i feel stupid just going up to some girl i dont know in the hallway and saying hi to them and talking to them for no reason. My sister told me that if i want to talk to a girl dont just go up to her and talk to her out of knowhere cause then your actin like a freak, and that you should some kinda of body language like smile before you say hi to them. I mean i think it would be better to talk to a girl thats in your class or in your study hall then some random chick in the hallway
Yeh I know what ur saying.. ur sister is kinda right in a way but im guessing shes just telling you that from her point of view if a guy just walked up to her.. but when i see a girl that i like in the hall.. I just get eyecontact with her and hold it untill she passes me. TO let her know whats up. then next time i see her i get eyecontact again and just smile at her and say hi. so right there is where u broke the ice. but then i just will go on and keep walking then maybe the 3rd time i will see her again and chat her up.. but thats just me i always try to find new ways to approach girls.. A simple Hi is good enough in most situations.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Just to reframe it: everyone you ever knew/ know was once a stranger. Girls want to be approached why do u think they get all dressed up sexy looking. EZ.
 
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