"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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It feels so good to set a little CVNT straight!!!

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Read bottom up, its only 1 message from me to her, and then her reply to me.

this is a girl that i was trying to meet up with from myspace whenever I had 5 minutes, I would call her, say hi, and see if she wanted to hang out - she always said yes, and then always flaked......happened 4 times in 2 weeks, no biggie for me, but at this point, i dont appreciate that behavior from her......so I noticed that she looks only decent in her normal pics, and looks hot in her "model" pics, so i wrote her a very mean but truthful message.......she replied, and blocked me - its nice that i hurt this cvnt's feelings, I like changing the world 1 person at a time!



HER

wow your a **** never talk to me again I never ditched you wow you can be so mean **** you

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ME
Date: Jan 10, 2008 8:10 PM


why do u wanna be a model so badly??

in your non model pics, i just noticed, you look pretty damn average/bordering on ugly

why would u try to be a model? to hide your insecurities JUST so you can say "heyyy look at me!!!! im ugly in real life, BUT I MODEL, SO IM DA ****!"

thanks for never hanging out with me, you saved me the awkwardness of having to ditch u the second that i saw u

eww
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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spiff said:
your stupid

tell me how

instead of telling me like a chump "your stupid", why dont u tell me HOW what i did was stupid? I spent a couple of minutes typing that, so dont tell me that im an AFC wasting my time on some b1tch, cuz I already got pvssy, I just want more and more and more, ALWAYS want more, i just happened to come across this bs here
 

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I'm sorry, but you didn't change anything at all. You might have made yourself feel better (i doubt it), but she is exactly the same now as she was before you sent the message. Except now she feels justified in never meeting up with you because you've shown yourself to be a "jerk".

If you really wanted to get back at her/make her think, you would have just stopped talking to her. When she eventually wrote you to ask why, you could have sent a message like... "My time is too valuable to waste it like this. Good luck to you." Then you should have never talked to her again.

The other advantage to this is that you really don't waste your time and energy. Instead of getting mad at her, you should have taken a lesson that you didn't do enough to build her interest in you before you tried to get her to meet up. Flaking is an indication of low levels of interest. Either you tried to move too quickly, or you were a bad judge of her interest levels.

Admittedly, it's much harder to build or judge interest over the internet, but the flipside is that you can talk too many more girls at a time. The second that she flaked on you the first time, you should have deleted her and went to the next girl on the list. She should have only gotten a second chance if she was apologetic and asked you out. There's no way she should have gotten a 3rd or 4th opportunity.

Anger is a wasted emotion. Instead you should focus on what you did wrong so you don't make the same mistake again. Your goal is only to be more successful at picking up girls, not to hurt their feelings.
 

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Quick said:
I'm sorry, but you didn't change anything at all. You might have made yourself feel better (i doubt it), but she is exactly the same now as she was before you sent the message. Except now she feels justified in never meeting up with you because you've shown yourself to be a "jerk".

If you really wanted to get back at her/make her think, you would have just stopped talking to her. When she eventually wrote you to ask why, you could have sent a message like... "My time is too valuable to waste it like this. Good luck to you." Then you should have never talked to her again.

The other advantage to this is that you really don't waste your time and energy. Instead of getting mad at her, you should have taken a lesson that you didn't do enough to build her interest in you before you tried to get her to meet up. Flaking is an indication of low levels of interest. Either you tried to move too quickly, or you were a bad judge of her interest levels.

Admittedly, it's much harder to build or judge interest over the internet, but the flipside is that you can talk too many more girls at a time. The second that she flaked on you the first time, you should have deleted her and went to the next girl on the list. She should have only gotten a second chance if she was apologetic and asked you out. There's no way she should have gotten a 3rd or 4th opportunity.

Anger is a wasted emotion. Instead you should focus on what you did wrong so you don't make the same mistake again. Your goal is only to be more successful at picking up girls, not to hurt their feelings.
you are right, i just had a free minute and wanted to tell her off and make her realize that her behavior is ****ed up - changing one life at a time like i said lol
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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AFC Savior said:
she always said yes, and then always flaked......happened 4 times in 2 weeks, no biggie for me, but at this point, i dont appreciate that behavior from her......
I agree with Quick.

If a girl flakes on you even once and you come back for more then you got what you deserve. Someone once said: "Insanity is doing the exact same thing over and over again and expecting a different result".

You were insane.
 

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spiff said:
your stupid
I agree, you are stupid for going off on her like that. You should have just nexted her, not talked to her anymore, instead of bashing on her like that and hurting her feelings. :nono:
 

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come on guys, she stood him up 4 times! I mean she should have at least had the decency to tell him she is not interested, or even lie about hwy she can't make it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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hes not stupid, hes Russian, we're hot headed like that and it's a normal response
 

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nando said:
come on guys, she stood him up 4 times! I mean she should have at least had the decency to tell him she is not interested, or even lie about hwy she can't make it.
he doenst have to cry about it
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:

LOL!

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Read bottom up, its only 1 message from me to her, and then her reply to me.

this is a girl that i was trying to meet up with from myspace whenever I had 5 minutes, I would call her, say hi, and see if she wanted to hang out - she always said yes, and then always flaked......happened 4 times in 2 weeks, no biggie for me, but at this point, i dont appreciate that behavior from her......so I noticed that she looks only decent in her normal pics, and looks hot in her "model" pics, so i wrote her a very mean but truthful message.......she replied, and blocked me - its nice that i hurt this cvnt's feelings, I like changing the world 1 person at a time!



HER

wow your a **** never talk to me again I never ditched you wow you can be so mean **** you

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ME
Date: Jan 10, 2008 8:10 PM


why do u wanna be a model so badly??

in your non model pics, i just noticed, you look pretty damn average/bordering on ugly

why would u try to be a model? to hide your insecurities JUST so you can say "heyyy look at me!!!! im ugly in real life, BUT I MODEL, SO IM DA ****!"

thanks for never hanging out with me, you saved me the awkwardness of having to ditch u the second that i saw u

eww
A DJ would never have sent that message insulting her. You are AFC. I was recently dissed in the WORSE way I have ever been dissed in my life and I still didn't send her an insulting message.

Well I did send her a message that said I would let her make it up to me in the future but that is just to plant the seed in her mind I'll still bang her but I don't think that was a bad message.

Then I never contacted her again and I'm pretty sure it's bothering her.

You think that girl cares what you said? She's already forgotten about you and whatever you made her feel some some guy is licking her pu$$y right now making her feel better.

Skip I thought you were better than this you've been around here too long for that nonsense.
 
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nando said:
come on guys, she stood him up 4 times! I mean she should have at least had the decency to tell him she is not interested, or even lie about hwy she can't make it.

Why the hell did you give her the opportunity to stand you up 4 times?
 

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The hoe was dumb enough to get the pissed Russian out of skip, sucks for her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DJVladdy said:
The hoe was dumb enough to get the pissed Russian out of skip, sucks for her.

He should have gone with the "I'll let you make it up to me" approach would have been better.

I thought the cardinal DJ rule is "NEVER LET THEM SEE YOU SWEAT"
 

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I'm 100% Russian. I KNOW about the Russian temper. I've been a master at it.


Russian or no Russian, a man controls his emotions.
 
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Using your nationality as an excuse to be AFC.. lol I thought I've heard it all.
 
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why do u wanna be a model so badly??

in your non model pics, i just noticed, you look pretty damn average/bordering on ugly

why would u try to be a model? to hide your insecurities JUST so you can say "heyyy look at me!!!! im ugly in real life, BUT I MODEL, SO IM DA ****!"

thanks for never hanging out with me, you saved me the awkwardness of having to ditch u the second that i saw u

eww
Man that's just terrible.

How about this

"Hey I don't appreciate your actions it shows you have no respect for me. Leave me alone unless you are ready to make it up to me."

Something like that. Someone else wrote that on the board the other day I just remembered it.

At least it leaves the door open for a booty call some day and you don't come across so bitter.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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