"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It Doesnt Work

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hey guys i want to make this story short iwas at this club i got myself quickly laid and i stated approaching to some girls and this is what it went like this me:hey there how u doin girl:fine. me: u like ur lonely cmon (offer my hand) i will cheer u up(i smile) and she says get lost.i mean jus dont get it why she said that anyway i go on to the next girl and fisrt i sart with kino confort building and all that .and i then ask her for a dance and she starts giving all me these exuses.well i jus move on to the next girl start some kino confort building and all those u have to go. and when i started the cF SHE TOOK AS INSULT AND JUS RAN AWAY.most of the time when i asked them for a dance and starts giving all sorts of bichy exuses and sadly i didnt get a dance with ANY GIRL.what was wrong pliz DONT IGNORE THIS COZ I REALLY NEED UR HELP THANX.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Sentence Structure, you'll never get laid without that.

Secondly, you're not building anything for rapport. It's hi, lets go dance. Where's rapport in there, even asking her a question about herself, or making a joke, you're missing the most important thing.

Why? Because Rapport = Trust = Interest

That's why my not-100%-pickups always work, because it's not a pickup anymore. Something that isn't a pickup automatically becomes successful because now you're in an alternate state where you can show and develop rapport without the underlying pickup tone.
 

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^^ Good advice. I just couldn't make sense out of what he was saying since it was typed like a mentally challenged person.
 

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when you told the girl that you will cheer her up, did you really believe you could do that? or when you're doing the c&f, do you actually believe you're the prize? that you're the catch? cuz ANY girl will sense it if you don't believe in what you're claiming. don't display a great ego if you don't have one yet. just go up to her and try your best to cheer her up. try to be the catch. try to believe you are. but don't claim anything. you need to cheer many girls up for a very long time before you become confident enough to be able to claim and even blof. having that great sexy ego needs practice and experience. you can't just fake it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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This guy just doesn't get it.
You need to understand social dynamics.
What you did to that girl was:
"Hi, I'm desperate and needy, please come with me because I need to pickup a girl. I don't have my shiit together so hopefully you'll give me your approval by coming with me? OK?"

Chill out, man. Make sure you and the girl are having fun.

And make better sentences. That post sucked.
 

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K the honest truth homie. First of all even if your good with women already when you enter the club or a bar its a kind of different environment so like you need to build up some comfort of your own before you start doing well there. I also made a club guide a while back so if you search my name and look for it you should not have too much problem finding it.
 

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@ original poster. IT, you reffering to is picking up women. It is a skill. It is not a technique. You can't read how to do it, go out and do it. It's called art for a reason, pick up artist, PUA. You practice it, eventually you'll aquire that skill, along the way you'll aquire many little skills that will get you there.

I'm kind of laughting at "it didn't work".

People think PUA is a technique or two, but it's not. Basically, it is you. You can't be a nerd or red neck or whatever and use a few techniques to pick up women. You must change yourself, and when you done enough you become a Don Juan.

Ironic thing is, once you are there, you don't go out looking for women to pick them up, women somehow find you where ever you go. I like saying that PUA is a state of mind, instead of a set of techniques.
 
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