it doesnt feel morally right to not care what others think

[UKS]

recently i have been building my life up to the way i want it to be.
i started martial arts and can fight pretty good now, i go watch my sports team alot all over the country, go the the gym keep toned, go to clubs dancing, go out sarging with some pua's i have met etc etc. and im really enjoying all this stuff, but i feel like people envy me because im enjoying my time so much at the moment and doing so much fun stuff.

and i cant handle it. i almost feel that, if i keep progressing the way i am then the people around me that i like will start to resent me. i have noticed this with people i am not so close to already. i feel like itd almost be rude to keep improving and having more success than everyone else because i feel bad that the same kinda things arent happening for them.

does anyone understand what im trying to say here?

its a belief that i need to get rid of, just hoping you guys can help me get rid of it

thanks for reading

 

[DJDamage]

i feel like people envy me because im enjoying my time so much at the moment and doing so much fun stuff.

The truth is that they are resenting themselves. They can't stand the fact that you are improving and that they are still stuck in a rut.

Continue doing what you are doing and don't let people judgement affect you.

 

[WC2]

The truth is that they are resenting themselves. They can't stand the fact that you are improving and that they are still stuck in a rut.

Continue doing what you are doing and don't let people judgement affect you.

Couldn't have said it better.

Them resenting you is their poor attempt to hold you down to their level. F*ck that, you should be telling them to get on your level.

I've lost a lot of old friends from before, but in retrospect these friends NEEDED to be weeded out and I've met guys who are worlds better as friends and people.

Keep moving.

 

[KontrollerX]

WC2 and DJDamage gave you great advice.

What I can add to it is to say to you that you can counter these thoughts of immorality and guilt by considering the selfishness and immorality of others who are feeling hateful and resentful of you for your progress.

From a perfect world point of view we think that others only want us to succeed but that is not the case.

There are always crabs in the barrel trying to pull the one down who tries to escape.

So instead of focusing how it feels morally wrong for you to succeed rather focus on and ask yourself these questions...

Shouldn't people be happy that I am bettering myself and if they aren't doesn't that reveal how selfish immoral and mean spirited they are at their core?

Rather than improve with me or be motivated to improve by me they instead choose to hate and resent. Doesn't that tell me something about these people who I feel so wrongly guilty over?

Doesn't it tell me that because they are so immoral, selfish and worthless themselves that it is wrong for me to beat myself up and feel bad for succeeding because of them these people who themselves are not good by accepted standards of behavior?

 

[Ambition Now]

I have a friend (female) who always complains that when other friends of her gets better in their lives they usually get away from her.
Some people are just like this, they dont want others to succeed because of their own insecurity, and when they do, they usually feel used or something...
Thats something we have to deal sometimes.
Usually those kind of people are the first to get away from you when they dont need something from you anymore. Selfish people.

 

[SuavePlaya]

These type of friends are more dangerous than any enemies you might have. They are dangerous because their input actually matters to you and It will never help you grow. The mentality you have now and the friends you have don't match. Do you see bill gates hanging out with homeless people?

 

[sodbuster]

As long as you are moral in your dealings with people,you should have a clear conscience. Everyone likes the poor guy who hangs in the bar buying drinks-if he decided to be successful,then they'd be jealous. Believe the crab story,it's true. People use guilt,ridicule,shame etc to keep other people in line with THEIR beliefs[which may or may not be good for you]

 

[oakraiderz2]

How do you think its "rude" to become a better person while your friends dont do sh*t with their life? I know what youre saying in your post, but sh*t, its kinda crazy. If they get mad at you for being successful you shouldnt feel sh*t about them. That means if they could throw you under the boat for success they would. Misery loves company.

 

[Alle_Gory]

recently i have been building my life up to the way i want it to be.
i started martial arts and can fight pretty good now, i go watch my sports team alot all over the country, go the the gym keep toned, go to clubs dancing, go out sarging with some pua's i have met etc etc. and im really enjoying all this stuff, but i feel like people envy me because im enjoying my time so much at the moment and doing so much fun stuff.

and i cant handle it. i almost feel that, if i keep progressing the way i am then the people around me that i like will start to resent me. i have noticed this with people i am not so close to already. i feel like itd almost be rude to keep improving and having more success than everyone else because i feel bad that the same kinda things arent happening for them.

does anyone understand what im trying to say here?

its a belief that i need to get rid of, just hoping you guys can help me get rid of it

thanks for reading

Listen to the friends who you can count on for an honest, unbiased opinion. Fvck everyone else.