"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Issues With Other Guys

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Sosuave, it's great to make a post here. I've been reading around here for awhile.

My question is short and sweet and more in the line of amogs. When I was young, I had a problem with bullies, etc. Now that I'm older, I don't have that same problem but, the mental and emotional responses I still notice are within me.

The problem is that when I run across a guy talking smack for whatever reason (usually just to get a rise outa of me), sometimes I can laugh it off but then sometimes I just snap and outburst.

I'm a relatively cool guy, but when I get into these situations and I "snap", obviously I don't look so cool anymore and actually look kinda stupid.

I pretty much know what I "should do", like ignore the folks or just don't let what others say bother me. For the most part I do, it's just that when I was young, I got bullied really, really, bad. It's like now that I'm older and have been working out etc., its like I've mentally had to build myself up to be a self-confident person despite the tons and tons of bullcrap programming that people have given me since I was young about how much I am a loser, and this and that.

My question is, how can I handle this? I thought about therapy but I'm not sure.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Google... The 48 Laws of Power.
 

Mr CIDH

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Go try a therapist. It sucks to have self issues. If you have less of those life will be easier. A therapist may be able to figure out how to kill the "snap" moments.
 
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