"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Issue w Family vs Respect

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You dont need toxic people in your life do you? Do you need someone who doesnt respect you?
Tell that to your Mom, that you appreciate her love and thoughtfulness but your sister has pushed you to the end of the line, and that you're sorry for her (your mom) sake that it cannot be reconciled.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I appreciate everybody's replies on this. My mom has ceased from ragging me about it. I was able to fend her off from "Have you thanked [sister] for the gift yet?" with "Not yet". But its been 4 days or so since she asked. A chick I know had a pretty good idea. She said "Don't call your sister. Don't text her. Don't unblock her. Send her a generic 'thank you' card in the mail". I pondered over that idea too. But in the end, I decided to do nothing. I just can't get past that horrific night in 2012 when I was at the lowest point in my life and my sister treated me like a piece of trash. Thanks again for all of the replies.
 
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