"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Isolation strategies: "Do you want to watch a film with me?" and others

OnTheWayUp

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Hi people,

I was just wondering if any of you had any suggestions about how to get an interested girl alone away from her friends? This can be in any setting where you can meet a girl, so uni classes, house parties, clubs, concerts, gigs, sport events etc etc. I'm getting better and better at building attraction, but in order to gain more experience at escalating I need to get better at isolating. The fact that girls my age always seem to go out in large groups doesn't help things, but I'm sure this can be overcome.

My suggestions from things that have worked for me:

1) Party/ club: "I'm going home to watch a film, do you want to join me?"

2) "I want to compare your room with mine." (Size, decor, whatever we've been talking about)

3) "I have this video on youtube that I have to show you."

4) Lead her by the hand back to your/ her place whilst maintaining c + f banter and accusing her of seducing you.

5) "Let's go somewhere quieter, you can't have a proper conversation here."


Any more ideas?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You don't need anymore ideas! You are thinking way to much, so I will tell you this: It does not matter what you say, if she likes you and/or the possibility of sex with you she will go with you no matter what you say.
 

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Number 1 is good. I use a similar line.

Like the other poster said, the line isn't critical. If she is DTF, most any line will work.

Dealing with groups of girls is tricky. Even if she is DTF, she doesn't want to look like a slut in front of her friends. I haven't field tested this last part, but I was thinking something like this:

Mike: What are you doing later?
HB: Nothing much.
Mike: I know you are with your friends right now. How about I get your number? I can text you later after your friends drop you off and we can meet up and chill for a while.
HB: um ok xxx xxxx.

As long as she is DTF and it's late in the night, it might work. If too much time goes by, she might change her mind.
 

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Hidden-Hand said:
You don't need anymore ideas! You are thinking way to much, so I will tell you this: It does not matter what you say, if she likes you and/or the possibility of sex with you she will go with you no matter what you say.
+1000000000000000

This is something I think everyone needs to realize. A lot of us (myself especially) think that what you say is what's important, but the really important communication is happening nonverbally. You can say anything to a girl, and as long as your body language is the same, you'll probably get the same response. This is why for example RSD has guys go up to girls and say stupid **** like "I like salad." The entire point is to get them to realize that words don't matter, it's how you say it that does.
 

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I agree that, if you've done things right, you can use any excuse in the book. I used, "Wanna see my shell collection?" once with no problem. (My shell collection consisted of one shell I picked up last time I was at the beach).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Like the other guys said, there's no special, top secret thing to say. If a girl is digging your game, she'll come along for whatever. You could be like, "I love grilled cheese after a night out. Let me make some for you." And if she likes you, she's coming along. They're not dumb. You're not tricking them. They know what you want.

A girl I brought home 2 weeks ago under the "Watch movies" premise, made fun of me for actually playing a movie (I was trying to keep up the illusion). I'll never forget that....she was like, "Wait. Are you seriously playing a movie right now?" So obviously, after that point, I skipped straight to the boob grabbing.

They know. There's no strategy. All those lines you wrote down...you could have said anything. If the girls went into a bedroom with you, they already knew why.
 

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Iceberg said:
Like the other guys said, there's no special, top secret thing to say. If a girl is digging your game, she'll come along for whatever. You could be like, "I love grilled cheese after a night out. Let me make some for you." And if she likes you, she's coming along. They're not dumb. You're not tricking them. They know what you want.

A girl I brought home 2 weeks ago under the "Watch movies" premise, made fun of me for actually playing a movie (I was trying to keep up the illusion). I'll never forget that....she was like, "Wait. Are you seriously playing a movie right now?" So obviously, after that point, I skipped straight to the boob grabbing.

They know. There's no strategy. All those lines you wrote down...you could have said anything. If the girls went into a bedroom with you, they already knew why.
LOL. Yeah I used to do that, but I figured out that was pretty dumb. New policy is if she comes over she's down, so just go for it right away.
 

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yeah I don't think the movie thing is good. I think it's the only bad "want to come to my place" reason. Because then either you don't play a movie and it's silly, or you do play a movie and it's annoying.

I'd use any excuse OTHER than the movie.
 

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Iceberg said:
Like the other guys said, there's no special, top secret thing to say. If a girl is digging your game, she'll come along for whatever. You could be like, "I love grilled cheese after a night out. Let me make some for you." And if she likes you, she's coming along. They're not dumb. You're not tricking them. They know what you want.

A girl I brought home 2 weeks ago under the "Watch movies" premise, made fun of me for actually playing a movie (I was trying to keep up the illusion). I'll never forget that....she was like, "Wait. Are you seriously playing a movie right now?" So obviously, after that point, I skipped straight to the boob grabbing.

They know. There's no strategy. All those lines you wrote down...you could have said anything. If the girls went into a bedroom with you, they already knew why.
Yeah it's completely true, you can tell them theres an extra cute looking tuft of carpet in one corner of your bedroom and she'll be like ":eek: show me! :D"
 
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