"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Isolate or Stay?

Colin O'Brien

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I'm remembering this time a little while ago. I was at a party and this one girl was all over me, sitting on my lap, touching me and stuff. The thing is we were sitting in a group of people, and I didn't really know what to do.. cause I wanted to hook up with her but I didn't know if I should start kissing her in front of all these people (some my friends, some her friends) if I don't want a relationship. I remembered reading something about how isolation is key. What would a real DJ have done in this case? Gotten up and led her someplace or start making out right there?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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KaneZen

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heh

instincts man
live in the moment. You dont always get a chance to continue later so you start now.
 

SinJester

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Isolate, isolate, isolate.

Although Kane has a point. What did you think you should have done it the moment? or were you unsure? Anyway it's good that it happened because it's things like this you learn from. Now you know you have to isolate.

"Come with me there's something I want to show you" and take her hand.

There ya go. Just gotta keep practising mate!
 

john paul

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Defenently dont start making out with her infront of everyone. Just think about that for a second and use common sense. Is that something you enjoy seeing people do?

plus she wouldnt react well becuase you would be making her look easy infront of everyone and would be akward as fvck for her.

The answer is always isolate.
She was obviously digging you and what sinjester said to say completely works. The girl will jump at any stupid reason to be alone with you if shes ready.


Once at a party my brother told a girl he wanted to show her his friend's gerbils, which where convienently located in his friends bedroom.
So trust me, she will go along with any stupid reason to get away from the party.
 

young pat

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John Paul hit the nail on the head. Always find an excuse to isolate. I was once at a party, there was this chic hanging all over me, and we were in the middle of a fairly large crowd.

I whispered in her ear that we should find someplace to sit down, there were benches right behind us, but we went off to some chairs in the barley lit far corner of the yard. I don't think I have to paint the rest of the picture for you.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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