"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Isolate or Stay?

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I'm remembering this time a little while ago. I was at a party and this one girl was all over me, sitting on my lap, touching me and stuff. The thing is we were sitting in a group of people, and I didn't really know what to do.. cause I wanted to hook up with her but I didn't know if I should start kissing her in front of all these people (some my friends, some her friends) if I don't want a relationship. I remembered reading something about how isolation is key. What would a real DJ have done in this case? Gotten up and led her someplace or start making out right there?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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heh

instincts man
live in the moment. You dont always get a chance to continue later so you start now.
 
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Isolate, isolate, isolate.

Although Kane has a point. What did you think you should have done it the moment? or were you unsure? Anyway it's good that it happened because it's things like this you learn from. Now you know you have to isolate.

"Come with me there's something I want to show you" and take her hand.

There ya go. Just gotta keep practising mate!
 
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Defenently dont start making out with her infront of everyone. Just think about that for a second and use common sense. Is that something you enjoy seeing people do?

plus she wouldnt react well becuase you would be making her look easy infront of everyone and would be akward as fvck for her.

The answer is always isolate.
She was obviously digging you and what sinjester said to say completely works. The girl will jump at any stupid reason to be alone with you if shes ready.


Once at a party my brother told a girl he wanted to show her his friend's gerbils, which where convienently located in his friends bedroom.
So trust me, she will go along with any stupid reason to get away from the party.
 
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John Paul hit the nail on the head. Always find an excuse to isolate. I was once at a party, there was this chic hanging all over me, and we were in the middle of a fairly large crowd.

I whispered in her ear that we should find someplace to sit down, there were benches right behind us, but we went off to some chairs in the barley lit far corner of the yard. I don't think I have to paint the rest of the picture for you.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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