"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Isn't it only fair that a pure virgin man gets to be with his pure virgin girl?

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What is fair is that you get out what you put in. If you put in the effort of meeting girls and screening them, then it is fair that you get the type of girl you are after, the more work you put in the more likely you are to get her.

If you want to have the 'pure virgin girlfriend' you have to work to get it. Just because she is a virgin doesn't mean that she wants a virgin too, you have to make her gina tingle.

The idea of a 'pure virgin girl' and 'pure virgin man' give off two different connotations to me. As such the attributes I associate with the 'pure virgin male' would make it unfair that he get the 'pure virgin girl' because in my opinion a guy who is still a virgin has not put in enough effort to obtain her. This is something I myself am guilty of.

If however a guy has put in the effort to meet, date and **** women then I think it is fair that eventually he will get to find his 'pure virgin girl' that he desires so much.

Gunner
 

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It's easy to determine if a chick is a virgin.

But what determines if a man is a virgin? Does he have to *** inside the vagina? What happens if he starts thrusting and loses his erection after a few pumps, can he still claim he is a virgin?
 

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Mike32ct said:
In theory and in a perfect world, yes.

In reality, it's far from guaranteed.
Was just gonna say something like this
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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why would you want a virgin girlfriend?

I never understood the obsession, it seemed to me that all you'd get is a girl who doesn't know what she's doing, is mediocre at everything at best, and that will quickly get boring unless you get super lucky and find a girl who was destined to become a freak(what happens if you find a girl who is a complete prude and unwilling to try anything fun as any virgin adult is likely to be unless you marry at like 19 which is its own set of problems)

unless she was only a technical virgin, which most of you would say doesn't count if she's done everything but home base with many other guys
 

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You can still find them in Asia and the Middle East but you can't expect to sit on your keester and have them fall into your lap. God helps those who help themselves.
why would you want a virgin girlfriend?

I never understood the obsession, it seemed to me that all you'd get is a girl who doesn't know what she's doing, is mediocre at everything at best, and that will quickly get boring unless you get super lucky and find a girl who was destined to become a freak(what happens if you find a girl who is a complete prude and unwilling to try anything fun as any virgin adult is likely to be unless you marry at like 19 which is its own set of problems).

unless she was only a technical virgin, which most of you would say doesn't count if she's done everything but home base with many other guys
Simple, she doesn't subscribe to Americanism or stink of narcissistic and strange borderline personalities. She is ready and equipped to enter a marriage as a responsible person and has the wherewithal to put up with your bull****. She hasn't lost her ability to bond by having multiple relationships. She probably puts her time and effort into cultivating herself and learning new things than trying to pick up tail.

America is an extremely selfish and ungreatful society and most people have little respect for one another. If you want decent girls you have to travel outside the westosphere to find them. You are assuming that women are only good for sex.... and that virginity simply indicates lack of sex. Americans you make me sad with almost everything you write.
 

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No it's not. What a dumb question.

Virgin girls are overrated anyways.


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LiveFreeX said:
You can still find them in Asia and the Middle East but you can't expect to sit on your keester and have them fall into your lap. God helps those who help themselves.

you can find them in america too, its called religious neighborhoods, religious gatherings and locations(churches and such), libraries, and invisible(the girls too unattractive for you to notice over their hot friends and sisters and classmates and roommates)

Simple, she doesn't subscribe to Americanism

oh god, liking america is soooooooooo bad

or stink of narcissistic and strange borderline personalities.

if she was crazy, she'd be crazy before and after the sex starts.

She is ready and equipped to enter a marriage as a responsible person

so is litterally anyone who isn't crazy and is at a bare minimum of 25, 30 being much better

but being a virgin means that she's either again, a prude, ugly or like 18/19(at best)


and has the wherewithal to put up with your bull****.

what does this have to do with her having sex or not?

She hasn't lost her ability to bond by having multiple relationships.
again, we're talking about a virgin and a non-virgin here

not a human woman and a 500 year old vampire who has gained equal parts detachment and apathy towards the living and life due to immortality


She probably puts her time and effort into cultivating herself and learning new things than trying to pick up tail.
having sex doesn't suddenly make you an uninteresting couch potato

not having sex does make you bad at it and closed to the more kinky stuff though


America is an extremely selfish and ungreatful society and most people have little respect for one another. If you want decent girls you have to travel outside the westosphere to find them.
this would be regardless of virgin or not though.


You are assuming that women are only good for sex....
no I'm assuming that anything else can be found in both virgins and non-virgins

sex won't make her funny, but sex won't suddenly make her boring either.


and that virginity simply indicates lack of sex.
which it does

Americans you make me sad with almost everything you write.
I feel like I just got trolled hardcore, but you have hundreds of posts(and aren't banned) and positive rep so you can't be a troll...
 

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In an ideal world, yes. Just like how being a decent person should garner respect, attraction (from the opposite sex), and reciprocitally. Or, being attractive and successful shouldn't result in everyone trying to tear you down, and competing against you in their sabotagolical efforts to do so. But we don't live in an ideal world, and life isn't fair - or how you may have envisioned / wanted things to be.

This is one of those entitlement / expectation issues, and has no basis on reality. Nothing is guaranteed; there's always obstacles and hardships to deal with. The sooner you realize this - WITHOUT becoming bitter and jaded about it - the better off you'll be.

So no, just because YOU are a certain way - doesn't necessarily mean that's who you are going to attract, or be given in return.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You gots to be kidding. Because you are a virgin and can't sell yourself to attract a cute girl, you expect her to decline sex with every 6'1 hockey player who is ripped and makes her feel sexy?

This is America, its about freedom and choices. if you want everyone equal because you can't sell, you need to go Cuba.
 

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I honestly would love to bang a slvt or whatever I just find it off putting. I'm honestly willing to die a virgin that's how strongly in feel about this.
 

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Sam get out of your fairy would and come join us here in reality, we will be waiting. Stop with the virgin sh1t. Then die a virgin, but we personally don't care.
 

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Aernt you guys bothered by that fact that your girlfriend has been fvcked by another guy??

Don't you guys find it repulsive?

A non virgin girl to me is like a fat girl to you guys. Just so you know what its like.
 

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I would rather end up with a virgin any day over the non virgin, but just like pairplus said and th things he listed ,it is unlikely
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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SamTheHobit said:
Aernt you guys bothered by that fact that your girlfriend has been fvcked by another guy??

Don't you guys find it repulsive?
Yeah, when I was 15.

Then my hormones kept surging and I wanted to bang the first girl that would let me, whether she was a virgin or not. In fact, I figured I would have better odds with a non-virgin. Succeed at 17.

Anyway, THEN I GREW UP AND REACHED THE AGE OF REASON.

Eventually, as you age, there are fewer and fewer virgins. That's just how it goes. And if you wait, wait, wait for Miss Little Purity, the odds of finding her rapidly decrease.

After at my age now, I'm not likely to girlfriend up the town ***** (if I know that's who she is), but generally the number of partners any girl has had really isn't something I'm all that interested in finding out.

I lost of Puritanical hangups a long time ago and entered the real world.
 

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Danger said:
Men prefer innocent women for a variety of reasons. But don't expect women to like the fact that you have standards.

I look at it this way. If I don't get her virginity, she doesn't get to marry me. So I just keep fvking without paying. Women get to be sluts, and I don't risk my assets. Everyone wins.
I guess this a good mindset to have.
 

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SamTheHobit said:
Aernt you guys bothered by that fact that your girlfriend has been fvcked by another guy??

Don't you guys find it repulsive?

A non virgin girl to me is like a fat girl to you guys. Just so you know what its like.
This is just silly. Do you leave your house? Are you bothered by the fact that the surfaces you touch have been touched by thousands of other filthy hands? Are you bothered by the fact that the water you drink has already been drunk and p!ssed out by billions of people? Live in the moment and stop concerning yourself with irrelevant chit.
 

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SamTheHobit said:
I honestly would love to bang a slvt or whatever I just find it off putting. I'm honestly willing to die a virgin that's how strongly in feel about this.
SamTheHobit said:
Aernt you guys bothered by that fact that your girlfriend has been fvcked by another guy??

Don't you guys find it repulsive?

A non virgin girl to me is like a fat girl to you guys. Just so you know what its like.
have you hit puberty yet?

once you become a teenager the testosterone in your veins(or... wherever) forces you to want to get laid at any cost

once you get to college, you should be getting laid with such frequency that you're under control

but just in case that isn't at all relevant to you, then remember this:

don't picture it, don't imagine it, don't think about it

it's only an issue if she was literally banging someone else within like 6 hours of banging you

don't worry about her number, whether it be one or 100... as long as she's disease-free, not too likely to cheat and has no kids you're fine

if it truly bothers you, here's an excerpt from rollo's blog for you:

Rollo said:
If you had an idealized Quality Woman girlfriend who was smoking hot, well adjusted mentally, loyal, would make a good mother, came from a good family, etc. etc., but would only ever begrudgingly have sex with you, in missionary position only, never consider giving you head, and only once a month (in 13 minute increments) because she’d been conditioned to believe that sex was immoral and she didn’t want to be thought of as a slut, would you marry her?
http://therationalmale.com/2012/01/06/the-slut-paradox/

read the whole thing, it's on this issue

everything in life is a trade-off

in this case, peace of mind for a decent sex life
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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