"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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isnt it funny

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isnt it funny the more you listen too a chick and put more stock into what she says and the more you emerse yourself in her world either accidently by it just creeping up on you or on purpose, the more bullsh1t, frustration, trouble and heartache you will cause yourself.

Im 28 and this problem still manages to creep up on me even when i try and avoid it.

power given is directly proportional to trouble caused.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by ( . )( . )

power given is directly proportional to trouble caused.

Whoever has the stronger desires in the relationship, has less power. They will always be at that persons mercy to maintain their approval.
 

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Originally posted by ( . )( . )
isnt it funny the more you listen too a chick and put more stock into what she says and the more you emerse yourself in her world either accidently by it just creeping up on you or on purpose, the more bullsh1t, frustration, trouble and heartache you will cause yourself.

Im 28 and this problem still manages to creep up on me even when i try and avoid it.

power given is directly proportional to trouble caused.
For real bro... that is why, I trust the opnions of only two females in my life. My Mom, and a gf I once dated, and even then, I only use 10% of what they have to say. ;)


..ok, my Mom is a little higher.... :p
 

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Originally posted by ( . )( . )
isnt it funny the more you listen too a chick and put more stock into what she says and the more you emerse yourself in her world either accidently by it just creeping up on you or on purpose, the more bullsh1t, frustration, trouble and heartache you will cause yourself.

Im 28 and this problem still manages to creep up on me even when i try and avoid it.

power given is directly proportional to trouble caused.
BUMP!! SO TRUE!! The more you like a girl, the more emotional sappy bullshyt you tend to show her. That's the best way to lose her.




PIMP
 

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if there is a lesson to be learned here, is that the opposite it true for women.

The more you talk to a girl, make your problems her problems, the more she gets caught up and involved in your web and your life.

it works like that with friends too.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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For sure - I've been seeing a girl for 2 weeks and i'm starting to REALLY dig her. However I have not let on exactly how much though, because I don't want there to be a chance for a transfer of power, which, to the outside observer, resides slightly in my favor.:D
 

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You guys are all so right

This is why this site is so important. It teaches one to take value in their own life. A woman is a complimentary side dish in life. In the end all you have is yourself ... and in the beginning that's all you have, too.

I get sooooooo tired of listening to songs or hearing saps on TV saying, "You complete me," and, "You're the reason for my existence," and so forth. Very painful to hear.

Women should be approached with a combination of interest and casual indifference. It's best to show interest, but also show that you have your own hobbies, interests, career -- basically you have your OWN life and it will not change whether she's in the picture or not.

It is the essence of DJism. Too bad this message is lost on techniques and slogans like nexting, neg-hits, C & F, etc., all good things, but they're confusing the entire philosophy of DJism.

It's not about techniques, it's about taking ownership of YOUR life -- with or without a woman!
 

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good points

chicks constantly test and debate and b1tch and moan that they want in on our lives , they want input and impact. they want to be equal with men and for men to just treat them as equals.

But in my case whenever i do give in (just a tiny bit) and give her an inch of what shes always rambling on about that she wants, it always seems to creep up on me to a point where im angry and pulling my hair out in frustration.

im going back to not taking any chicks seriously and just playing off there attempts at guilt and cries of trying to get me to take them seriously, funny enough they still drop the panties just as much as they would when we listen to them, just minus the frustration.. you do the math.

btw this wasnt a rant, this is a genuine problem men always have to deal with.
 
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