lol, damn that brought back memories. I was with a girl who would be all over me (she initiated sex) when we were alone or with just a couple close friends, but we never really went out and about and she actually denied that we were together when other people (outside the circle) would ask, making me look stupid in the process because I of course had no problem with people knowing and she made them think i was lying.....Mr. Me said:
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Isn't it a bit late for her to start playing hard to get?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Yes, I have also dated two women like this and they are trouble- for the reason that you said, HOWEVER there are another two factors at work here.MacAvoy said:
! . When she was living with her parents, YOU were her sole source of intimacy and attention. To preserve this she reacted to you with behavior that you read as HIGH IL ,and it probably was. When she moved in with her roommates you became just one of several "friends" in her life. She had new connections with the other women and that was all new and exciting. She then shared her time and attention around the group and you were just the oldest member of her new group.
2. Women like this little lady regard her relationships with a man as just one amongst her several other relationships. THis is the "high school " mentality at work.
She now has a group of new friends( roomates) - Betty and Natasha and Kylie AND there is Jitterbug at the rear.
She also thinks that she "owes" her new roomies her loyalty and committment to that group in order to preserve it and so she withdraws some attention and energy from her relationship with you and 'deposits' it in the group "account". That way she feels that her membership is bought and guaranteed.
This is what I call "slicing" - immature, approval seeking women behave like this. They slice themselves up and give eveyone a piece . The problem is that an intimate relationship with a man cannot prosper on a 'slice' .
My advice- dump her .She has the emotional mentality of a 16 year old.
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+1Mr. Wise said:
Thanks jophil. That makes a lot of sense, now that I've gathered from memory bits that she told me about her housemates & spending time with them before she moved there. Definitely "slicing" behaviour.
Yup I already decided to dump her after she rejected the several times I asked her out and her IL dropping. I don't know the mentality of the "hard to get" game-players but my IL in someone is proportionate to her IL in me, not the other way around.
I haven't mentioned that to her since we weren't in a relationship, so I don't need to declare it officially. I've simply withdrawn my attention completely.
Yup I already decided to dump her after she rejected the several times I asked her out and her IL dropping. I don't know the mentality of the "hard to get" game-players but my IL in someone is proportionate to her IL in me, not the other way around.
I haven't mentioned that to her since we weren't in a relationship, so I don't need to declare it officially. I've simply withdrawn my attention completely.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
my emphasisJitterbug said:
Too bloody simple. Your answer's right there.
Where did you go that made it impossible too keep in contact? A trip to the North Pole on a dog sled?
That missing month is where it all went to hell. Nowadays it's not very hard to maintain some sort of contact....
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Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
OK. I obviously interpreted "didn't catch up" differently.
In view of that, it's not so clear. Could very well be that her friends are at the bottom of it, in one way or another.
In any case, looks like it's best to move on ...
In view of that, it's not so clear. Could very well be that her friends are at the bottom of it, in one way or another.
In any case, looks like it's best to move on ...
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Yeah, I've moved on.
Latinoman, I didn't meet her on Facebook nor did I use it as my main communication channel (I only use it to organize events & share photos). On my holiday, I used it to send her some messages & photos of a few cool stuff I was doing, to keep in touch.
Forget about online. This chick gets lots of attention in real life, with her being very outgoing & attractive. I know at least half a dozen AFC LJBF orbiters of hers. But then, what HBs don't have such a group of suckups? I can't possibly give more attention than any of those guys so I never think of competing with that.
Latinoman, I didn't meet her on Facebook nor did I use it as my main communication channel (I only use it to organize events & share photos). On my holiday, I used it to send her some messages & photos of a few cool stuff I was doing, to keep in touch.
Forget about online. This chick gets lots of attention in real life, with her being very outgoing & attractive. I know at least half a dozen AFC LJBF orbiters of hers. But then, what HBs don't have such a group of suckups? I can't possibly give more attention than any of those guys so I never think of competing with that.