Is "You need to accept yourself as you who you are"...

[ImprovingJuan]

something like you'll find someone someday?

is it a way for women to politely tell you are ugly and not really attractive?

how can i break this endless cycle of being seen as unnatractive physically?

You guys have seen my pics and know im bald and ugly but for those who havent: http://kornadict.imgur.com/all/

i've returned to the gym two weeks ago, it was difficult as my mind and body didnt want to, my mind was saying who am i kidding, i'm 41 i wont get the body of a 20 y/o anymore, nevertheless i fought back for the first time since 2012.

as for women they still find me ugly, this is what one has told me :

Mar 10, 2017, 3:30 pm Olha, mas quem te diz que és feio ?? Cada um é como é... és horrível mas tbm não és assim tão horrível, Fogo...

this roughly translate as:

"Look, who tells you are ugly?? You are what you are , you are horrible but you are not that horrible, dammit..."

i have a woman interested in me, i know for a fact that she likes but i dont like her, and she has a ****ed up personality and being with someone just for the sake of not being lonely anymore is not for me.

https://scontent-mad1-1.xx.fbcdn.ne...=c7e1c6d3620162823d8f6a85cb24b717&oe=5964A58C

i know i can do better even if you guys think we are looks matched.

I wont settle for what life has in store for me, because we make life, not the other way around.

 

[ImprovingJuan]

also i became to the conclusion that the times that i'm more "desperate" for women is when my depression kicks in and when i have more stress and problems in my life whatever they may be. its like i needed someone to understand me more than the need for sex. Having no male friends contributes to those hard times too.

Other than those times i feel fine if i dont have a girlfriend.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

There is a certain truth to self-acceptance. But I think it can be over-done as you also want to be improving yourself both mentally and physically. Part of improving yourself mentally is finding a moderate position between accepting physical [and mental] realities while working within them to improve what you can. No point in being delusional.

 

[TheFixer14]

You have to accept who you are 109%. Otherwise how can you be a full human being? People need to stop worrying about what makes them appealing and love themselves.

 

[Infern0]

The biggest thing you need to improve is your attitude because it stinks.

Here comes the harsh truth you need.

You are 41 years old and its time you got over these insecurities.

Why the hell would any quality woman want to get with you when you radiate this depressing aura of low self esteem.

Theres plenty of information out there avaliable to help you gt out of that waste of time mindset, but again you are 41 years old and its on you to go out and find them and actually do the work on yourself.

Or you can just complain about how "ugly" you are. (Btw you know you arent ugly but its a nice easy excuse for your lack of success rather than admitting its your own fault for being lazy and not sorting yourself out)

Take some action NOW and stop wasting everyones time.

(Btw ive been where you are and i NEEDED my ass kicked until i got it, being "nice" to you wont help at all)

 

[ubercat]

Many people will try and put u down in life to raise themselves up. They have proven themselves to b a POS y give a fcvk about their opinion.

 

[ImprovingJuan]

Many people will try and put u down in life to raise themselves up. They have proven themselves to b a POS y give a fcvk about their opinion.

i know mate, thing is women tried that with me all my life, telling me how horrible i am, trying to bring me down for no reason, some even said i'm creepy and i piss them off just by looking at my face.

Wish i could change that but other than going to the gym i dont know what much more i can do. I don't even know whats wrong in my face for them to say that. It's sad it really is.