"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is Working Out THAT important for being a DJ ?

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1. Metrosexual, ME ? LOL ! AHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA !

2. I did athletics for 7 seasons, I also attended a gym for 2 years, and I never felt on the top of the world after working out.

3. I am NOT telling you to stop working out. I just contest the linking between being a DJ and working out. JUST that.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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1. The "Why? Easy"part really gives you away.

2. Maybe you should have tried something heavier than the 10 lbs weights.

3. It's our style it works for us. Case closed.
 

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Originally posted by Pedro
Does working out matter?
yes you dirty doosh bag
 

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Originally posted by Pedro
Well, try to run 45 minutes fartlek then :)

It's a VERY heavy training.
My primary goal is strenght training I do not do cardio to much extent.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Pedro what are you talking about?

You're trying to tell me you've never had "runner's high"? You've done a 45-minute fartlek and didn't even feel euphoria afterwards? That's weird. From my experience, an intense cardio workout gives you an even bigger high than an intense weight workout will.
 

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Pedro whatever it is your saying has no weight. It’s a fact Training improves mental and physical abilities. So why wouldn’t you think that would have a drastic effect on every other aspect of your life. I think your content where u are in life and that’s great however a lot of people feel life is about constantly pushing yourself to that next level.

No surprise u never had a high from running, that wouldn’t happen with you taking breaks every five minutes. It’s called pushing yourself to the limits and beyond which leaves you with a feeling that no challenge is impassable.
 

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Peter Parker: although I don't agree with you, you wrote a very good post !

Anyway I attended a gym for two years and that didn't have any effect in my life.

Ah, and I never took breaks any five minutes or so... :\
 

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If you ran for 45 minutes and never felt anything, you really weren't running.

You can get a good workout in less then 45 minutes. It 's all about how you train.

Onto the theory about why you should workout.

In todays society, somebody actually arguing why you don't need to work out, thats just plain stupid.

Besides the self-confidence gained by some, besides the hope to bulk up or tone down, any form of exercising and eating healthy can have a drastic effect on PREVENTING

HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, HIGH CHOLESTEROL, OBESITY, HEART DISEASE, CARDIO RESPIRATORY DISEASES, various joint and muscle related ailments, postural distortions and the list goes on.

IT's proven that any form of exercise can reduce your risks.

To say exercise is useless, is kind of stupid. No matter, whether you do strength training, cardio, reactive training, stretching, whatever it is you do to train.

Again, its a proven fact the exercising can improve your overall health.

Yeah for most people on this site, it probably doesnt matter because most are about 17 years old. Most dont care.

But fast forward 20 years.

37 years old isn't very old. Especially if you never did anything for most of your life to improve your health.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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daffy: from the beginning the question was the relation between working out and being a DJ. Not anything else.
 

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Damn, a lot of you guys workout for the wrong reasons.

I got into it because I was depressed and needed a hobby, little did I know before getting into lifting was that the body releases a chemical in your brain that makes you happy for a short period of time, i've started to notice this after i'm done my workout. It's really like a high but only felt for a maximum of 20-30mins for me. But it's a great feeling and got me away from depression.
 
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