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Is watching porn same as watching Seductive images ?

mv.89

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Hello,

The title is pretty straight forward.

I know the harmful effects of porn on mind, mentality and perception but does watching seductive images like (Chive or egotastic)

does the same damage ? I tried to google this topic but nothing showed up , so I was wondering if anyone has something to share.

I , do not watch porn and I am still on the no fap process, 35-37 day now can't remember since I don't count anymore as I'm

positive to drop it as a habit altogether. I don't indulge in edging or any of those activities either.

I , sometimes in my free time watch funny pictures that one can see on those Chive app and then there are the Women pics too,

so is on egotastic but on that brea$ts are visible and sometimes vag!na too.

Would it cause the same harmful effect or this is somehow different ?
 

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I look at the Chive too, one of my favorite sites. I think as long as you don't fap to those images then you're good. I've avoided porn completely for the last 6 months and don't consider pictures of girls in bathing suits the same thing at all.
 

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What about , if some of them are little bit exposed ? for example brea$ts exposed and all ?

Sometimes even music videos like tyga-make it nasty are explicit but that's the
case of hyper reality.

So I was wondering that if I am avoiding porn and looking at Chive and egotastic would I be equally damaging the mind?
 

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I think the porn thing is based on the idea that we are exposed to more volume and hardcore than earlier generations. We aren't built to handle the constant stimulation.
Put another way, pics and playboy magazines didn't hurt your grandfather, so won't hurt you. 6 hours of hardcore gangbang videos would probably give either of you ED with a real woman long term.
 

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She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yeah that's a really good point. Also, I think if a person isn't masturbat!ng to any of those then it'll be just mind running wild as in the imagination which is better for us.

So basically porn is "too much too soon" ruins everything.
 

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I stopped porn and masterbation all together. Feels great! Either real women or none (unless in my dream, that I can't avoid...) Workout helps avoid some of those thoughts.
 

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Yeah I think you're good as long as you aren't masturbating to them. That's what causes more dopamine to flow thus making it easier to get addicted. I personally don't like seductive images period. I don't want to condition my mind to a standard of attractiveness that's rare in the real world. The only porn/seductive images I look at these days is the stuff my girl makes me. I condition my mind to be even more attracted to her, more enjoyment when Im with her, profit.
 

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I stopped watching porn. I still fap though and its been getting harder and harder to fap without porn.. Just goes to show how much that sh1t affects u.

One good thing is I was always able to last long in sex even when I first started.
 

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I'm curious guys.
What do you think about meaningless sex?
Having sex with a random stranger just for the sake of it. Is that healthy or unhealthy?

Not judging: I masturbate, watch porn and have sex with random girls sometimes.
 

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She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Grisou said:
I'm curious guys.
What do you think about meaningless sex?
Having sex with a random stranger just for the sake of it. Is that healthy or unhealthy?

Not judging: I masturbate, watch porn and have sex with random girls sometimes.
What do you mean "just of the sake of it" ?

Don't you have sex because you enjoy it ? or do you just have sex so you can
add another girl to your list of spoils ? lol I hope it's the former.

Based on that , as long as you don't have any doubts that you'll catch STD, it's all good.
 
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