Is too much smiling a negative?

[TravisBickle]

Hey guys, do you think it's bad to be "too" smiley? I naturally have a huge smile when I talk to friends and peers. Why? I guess I'm just shy beta and smiling is a coping mechanism. It's actually a great smile, but I'm starting to think it weirdens people (particulary girls) out and makes me look vulnerable.

Thoughts? Should I try to force myself to have a straight face. thx

 

[TravisBickle]

I smile way too much, and already have smile lines. I smile when someone accuses me of something, when I see a friend, whatever you think of I'm smiling.

Anyway, no its not, your over-analyzing it.

Don't sweat it.

I could never picture a smiling goof like Tony Romo attract James Bond women. =/ I hope i'm just over-analyzing it.

 

[oakraiderz2]

It depends. If youre smiling ALL the time, even when you shouldnt be, then yes. People often smile and laugh when theyre nervous. Like you said, its a coping mechnism.

 

[DJDamage]

I used to be just like you. I would walk around with a big smile on my face all day long and people thought I was really happy guy to a point where they nicknamed me "smiley". However deep down I disliked myself, I had trouble communicating with people (especially women) and I was never really comfortable in my own skin. Its only when I started to really apply myself, work on my weaknesses that the goofy smile naturally came off and I made other people (especially women) smile more then me.

You called yourself a beta for a reason. You don't really like yourself or your position in life. Better step up and work on yourself.

 

[jophil28]

Hey guys, do you think it's bad to be "too" smiley? I naturally have a huge smile when I talk to friends and peers. Why? I guess I'm just shy beta and smiling is a coping mechanism. It's actually a great smile, but I'm starting to think it weirdens people (particulary girls) out and makes me look vulnerable.

Thoughts? Should I try to force myself to have a straight face. thx

Not to worry, when you get to my age and survive a couple marriages, several loonies who were the best female impersonators I ever met and then you meet a gorgeous BPD women who drains the juice out of you (in a bad way ) then your smile will be automaticcaly ADJUSTED to reflect your true inner self.

Life is self correcting.

 

[TravisBickle]

Its only when I started to really apply myself, work on my weaknesses that the goofy smile naturally came off and I made other people (especially women) smile more then me.

Thanks, just generally, what do you mean by applying yourself and working on weakness.

You called yourself a beta for a reason. You don't really like yourself or your position in life. Better step up and work on yourself.

I'm actually very happy with myself and life has been nice to me. I'm just a natural beta. I'm not sure if that's a bad thing, or whether it's worth the alpha transformation people on these forums are seeking.

 

[Soprano]

naw its a good thing. even if you do smile "too much" at least its better then frowning too much lol

 

[SharinganUser]

I think you'll be ok.

http://media.filmschoolrejects.com/images/ledger-joker.jpg

 

[slaog]

If your smile is genuine it's a good thing. Otherwise is can look fake and look like you're trying too hard which means you have lower value then the person you're talking to/passing. You shouldn't have to try, it should come naturally.


A smile, even a fake one at least shows you're not going to be an a**hole. So it's better then a frown.

 

[Jokerlsk]

No, bro, smiling is amazing. I smile a lot, and it shows that you are indeed a positive person. When you smile at someone, 9.9999999 times out of 10, they're going to smile back. When you talk to someone, look them in the eyes (it shows respect, and shows that you are a man) and if you are fond of them (EX: a girl you are attracted to them) smile. Smiling is a symbol of happiness, and when you smile, you make other people happy.

 

[amoka]

This is strange because I find myself in the same situation... I can say mine is worse though. I practically smile at everything even when accused of something I did not commit. As a matter of fact, I smile at people disabled and homeless when I see them. I feel BAD. I completely can understand. DJDAMAGE, how did you put this old habit of yours to a stop?

 

[dthomas]

It's better than not smiling at all. But yes, ideally you want to make you smiles specialized to the context of the situation and person.