"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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MatureDJ

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http://dalrock.wordpress.com/2010/11/18/men-stop-tricking-women-into-loveless-marriages/

I would never have married him if it hadn’t been for the fact that we had pre-marital sex. I’d suffered sexual abuse as a child and when I became born-again, I’d felt clean for the first time. Then one day we were alone (first mistake) and I wanted to test him (major, major mistake). I wanted so badly for him to be that romantic hero of the Harlequin novels who loved and respected his woman so much he would never have sex with her before marriage. I wanted him to stop himself, but of course, he didn’t. So I did the only thing I could think of to clean up my own mess and that was to marry him. Even as I prepared for marriage, I knew I didn’t really love him, but I ignored it and made myself go through with it. What a fool.
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However, I suppose that if sex is a test, then it's OK to fail. :woo:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Interesting blog.

I think a lot of women marry for similar reasons. Not necessarily because they are bad people, but because they dont know where else to turn and they feel like their number is up. My sister and her ex-husband married when she was 20 because they had a child out of wedlock. The family thought it was the "right thing to do". It wasnt.
 

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This seems useful in that it highlights how differently men and women think and how differently they approach their romantic relationships.

Many men tend to project their own thought process onto women and expect women to think and react like a man would.
 

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So the lesson is to beware of women who's friends/sisters are all getting married, right?
 

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This is a great exercise in ignoring what she says and watching what she does, as this woman makes no sense but decides to cheat on her husband and leave him and her family for gina tingles. That's the whole story period. The rest is long winded justifications and lunacy.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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