Is this weird or am I over thinking it?

[Glassguy]

One of 4 chicks that I am actively seeing came over Saturday night. 33 yr old Nurse Practitioner. First date was Friday night, met up for drinks. She lives an hour away so we didnt get too crazy when we went out because she had to drive back. Had a good time and she says she definitely wants to do it again.

Saturday I played in a golf tournament that took over 7 hours in 90 degree heat. I was exhausted when we finished. She texted me and asked what I was getting into later that evening and told me that she was just chilling at home. So I said we should get into something. She offers to drive over my way again and says that she is fine either going out or staying in.....says it will probably be a little late getting to my area so I tell her to wear something casual in case we go somewhere but bring comfy clothes if we dont.

Anyways.....we stay in. I was literally exhausted so we start a movie and we are drinking rum and coke. About an hour into the movie (around 11pm) she moves me around on my sectional so she can rub my back. So I am laying there with me head on her lap and fall asleep lol. I just dozed off for a few minutes though.....I wake up, we take things to my bedroom, smash and she stays the night.

Next morning I wake up at 6am and she had already gotten dressed and is sitting in a leather chair thats in my bedroom putting her shoes on. She acted a little weird before leaving but I didnt think much of it since we had sex so early on (2nd date). She leaves and I get ready to play in another golf tournament yesterday.

Then........

As I am playing golf she sends me a text or two and a video that she took while I "dozed off for a bit" while she was rubbing my back during the movie. Its like a selfie video that show her and angles down at me dead asleep with my head on her lap. I sent back "wth?? Lol. Did you video anything else from your phone that I might have missed last night?"

To which she responded "No I didnt lol. You just looked so attractive laying there with your on my lap that I had to video it"

Is it just me or is it a little odd that she took that video and sent it to me the next day?? All 4 of the chicks that I am seeing right now are super cool, smart and attractive. I would hate to next her over something like that but it just seems very odd.....

 

[Red Legg]

Over thinking it your making the rookie mistake of trying to figure one of these infernal creatures out......good luck.

 

[Murk]

Straight up weird, I've done my fair share of recording sex, this is just weird though.

Shoot her a text that it doesn't make you feel comfortable

 

[Glassguy]

Straight up weird, I've done my fair share of recording sex, this is just weird though.

Shoot her a text that it doesn't make you feel comfortable

Heck if she wanted to record us smashing that night I would have held her phone and recorded it so my face wasnt in view lol. It was just weird her recording me laying there with my head on her lap while sleeping.

 

[sazc]

Overthinking FTW!

I'm surprised this makes you uncomfortable and guessing that, since it was done when you were vulnerable (aka completely not in control) it makes you feel uneasy.

She found it endearing and thought you were adorable sleeping in her lap so she took a video.

If you don't like people recording you without you knowing, figure out some way to gently tell her that.

 

[Murk]

Yes recording people while they sleep on a second date is weird, the OP read like a thriller/horror.

 

[Roober]

Overthinking bigtime.

I think it's a great sign, it means she has a serious admiration for you. I would comprehend this is "oh, i am so lucky to have this guy and hes even cute when he sleeps."

Some women like to capture special moments, congrats for giving her one. She also sounds like a giver, very hard to find these days. Only time will tell if its genuine or not.

My guess is the relationship chat comes early with this one.

 

[Glassguy]

Overthinking bigtime.

I think it's a great sign, it means she has a serious admiration for you. I would comprehend this is "oh, i am so lucky to have this guy and hes even cute when he sleeps."

Some women like to capture special moments, congrats for giving her one. She also sounds like a giver, very hard to find these days. Only time will tell if its genuine or not.

My guess is the relationship chat comes early with this one.

Possibly. She is 33, Nurse Prac, owns her own place, new Tahoe, family oriented. She made the comment when she came down for date 1 that "she is definitely not into hookups etc" and that "sleeping with a stranger just seems weird and gross and not sure how people do that and enjoy it".

Then I smashed her date 2 lmao. She seems like a catch. From what I have gathered through talking to her, she is relationship oriented and although doesnt seem to be in a rush for it, is looking for something that has possibility of leading to more.

We will see. I am not gloating, but I have 4 that are very attractive, have their shyte together, educated, fun, outgoing and seem really into me. It seems like when you have 2 or more you could have 10 and when you have none its tough to find that first one that fits the bill. It might make it tough to decide when one or more of them starts bringing relationships up into conversations.

 

[AJ84]

Possibly. She is 33, Nurse Prac, owns her own place, new Tahoe, family oriented. She made the comment when she came down for date 1 that "she is definitely not into hookups etc" and that "sleeping with a stranger just seems weird and gross and not sure how people do that and enjoy it".

Then I smashed her date 2 lmao. She seems like a catch. From what I have gathered through talking to her, she is relationship oriented and although doesnt seem to be in a rush for it, is looking for something that has possibility of leading to more.

We will see. I am not gloating, but I have 4 that are very attractive, have their shyte together, educated, fun, outgoing and seem really into me. It seems like when you have 2 or more you could have 10 and when you have none its tough to find that first one that fits the bill. It might make it tough to decide when one or more of them starts bringing relationships up into conversations.

You have the ideal situation that any guy would envy: four women who seem to have good value and are into you.

Like a few other's have said she's showing that she is into you in that non-sexual intimate way when we have feelings for a guy.

Continue as is, but be mindful that she may bring up the 'what are we...' talk at some point. I'm sure the other three will too but hey, there are far worse problems then trying to pick one of four atttactive, solid women who like you

 

[Glassguy]

@AJ84 I am definitely liking the situation although its a scheduling nightmare. Hopefully I will get to spend enough time with each of them to peel back the onion a little more and see who I click with more. I would certainly like another solid LTR at some point because single and dating can really suck sometimes as we go through sluggish times. But right now I am in a perfect situation and I am enjoying it. But like all good things do.........

 

[Roober]

Possibly. She is 33, Nurse Prac, owns her own place, new Tahoe, family oriented. She made the comment when she came down for date 1 that "she is definitely not into hookups etc" and that "sleeping with a stranger just seems weird and gross and not sure how people do that and enjoy it".

Then I smashed her date 2 lmao. She seems like a catch. From what I have gathered through talking to her, she is relationship oriented and although doesnt seem to be in a rush for it, is looking for something that has possibility of leading to more.

We will see. I am not gloating, but I have 4 that are very attractive, have their shyte together, educated, fun, outgoing and seem really into me. It seems like when you have 2 or more you could have 10 and when you have none its tough to find that first one that fits the bill. It might make it tough to decide when one or more of them starts bringing relationships up into conversations.

I have noticed since starting this journey that "women are not into hookups", but smash on the second or third date because we are just that damn good. They wont smash 95% of men that early.

You've reached that pinnacle where women see you as a catch, so they want to take you to bed and wouldn't dare reject you. However, that also likely means your giving off a bit of BF vibe as well. You can probably get just about any woman in the sack no matter how hard she has her ASD in force.

It also means your hitting her emotions and her heart, something many struggle with mightily. They would rather prey on the females struggling to find themselves, often from lower rungs of socioecoomic status.

Bravo!

 

[Mazer]

She got your hamster spinning my brother! Two things could happen here. She shows this video to her friends of how you fell asleep on her and they all have a good laugh about it or she is creepy as fack and her neediness/stalking vibe will start to show.

I would be more concerned if you woke up in the middle of the night after smashing, with her staring at you with a creepy as fack smile on her face and bugged out eyes. Scary **** when that happens

 

[Billtx49]

Second date is too soon to be falling asleep. You don’t even really know who you’re dealing with by that point. Just be glad she didn’t have access to a gun or knife if she was a complete psycho…
This whole situation could have been avoided if you had assessed your personal energy level better beforehand…

 

[Glassguy]

I have noticed since starting this journey that "women are not into hookups", but smash on the second or third date because we are just that damn good. They wont smash 95% of men that early.

You've reached that pinnacle where women see you as a catch, so they want to take you to bed and wouldn't dare reject you. However, that also likely means your giving off a bit of BF vibe as well. You can probably get just about any woman in the sack no matter how hard she has her ASD in force.

It also means your hitting her emotions and her heart, something many struggle with mightily. They would rather prey on the females struggling to find themselves, often from lower rungs of socioecoomic status.

Bravo!

Agreed and good post Roober.

Second date is too soon to be falling asleep. You don’t even really know who you’re dealing with by that point. Just be glad she didn’t have access to a gun or knife if she was a complete psycho…
This whole situation could have been avoided if you had assessed your personal energy level better beforehand…

Relax lol. She is no serial killer. I have known her for nearly a year and we have 2 very close mutual friends. I was fine when I finally got home and showered but it caught up with me around midnight. I spent over 8 hrs outside in 95 degree heat and 90% humidity that day playing in a golf tournament. It was ridiculous.

She sent me a message earlier saying that she only took that video because I looked so comfortable like I was and that she was super comfortable too. And "I'd like to rub your back more often......dont worry you more than made up for falling asleep after you woke up and we went to your bed".

I think she is just a little more nurturing than what I'm used to. Not a bad thing. I think it would have been creepier to find out about the video later had she not sent it to me.

 

[Murk]

Nurturing... seemed straight cray cray to me. I guess after seeing all the posts it’s prob just a really loving women but you always need to keep your wits about you, especially with new girls.

I have several plates too but none are worthy of anything deep, sad really, I have 2 solid plates that are not on my case for attention, the others I’m constantly fighting fires and it’s hard work. Hot but low quality.

 

[Billtx49]

I think she is just a little more nurturing than what I'm used to. Not a bad thing. I think it would have been creepier to find out about the video later had she not sent it to me.

Didn’t realize you knew her that long, she’s a nurse prac, they nurture and help people. Point taken. She was upfront about the vid also. Good sign…

 

[Glassguy]

Nurturing... seemed straight cray cray to me. I guess after seeing all the posts it’s prob just a really loving women but you always need to keep your wits about you, especially with new girls.

I have several plates too but none are worthy of anything deep, sad really, I have 2 solid plates that are not on my case for attention, the others I’m constantly fighting fires and it’s hard work. Hot but low quality.

That's ultimately my issue right now. All 4 of my current plates are either NPs or have their BSN (crazy I know) and have tons of upside. All are probably worthy of more than being plates. My plan is to ride it out and get to know as much as possible when I'm out with them and if one stands out and the relationship talk is brought up by her, I'll cross that bridge then.

Kinda tired of the roulette of decent women at this point and would like to have a little more with one that is clearly compatible on all levels. Nothing super serious right away but at least they all have potential for later on. Typically I have 2 or 3 plates with little potential due to issues or being cray cray.....they serve their purpose although it's nice to have several very good options.

 

[Roober]

That's ultimately my issue right now. All 4 of my current plates are either NPs or have their BSN (crazy I know) and have tons of upside. All are probably worthy of more than being plates. My plan is to ride it out and get to know as much as possible when I'm out with them and if one stands out and the relationship talk is brought up by her, I'll cross that bridge then.

Kinda tired of the roulette of decent women at this point and would like to have a little more with one that is clearly compatible on all levels. Nothing super serious right away but at least they all have potential for later on. Typically I have 2 or 3 plates with little potential due to issues or being cray cray.....they serve their purpose although it's nice to have several very good options.

That's a great problem to have, and likely the exact scenario Rollo and the book of pook would want for their readers.