Is this true?

[Magnatolia]

Hey guys,

I read that an approach should last for a minimum of 20 mins in the attraction stage. And that I shouldn't ask personal questions during this time.

So what the heck do you say if you can't ask personal questions?

 

[everywomanshero]

better question to ask is this: If these rules are so concrete, then why aren't the guys who talk about them so busy getting women to take them on exotic vacations and such too busy to post messages about it on the Internet?

Some people have an unhealthy need for control. Therefore, they try to minimize all human interaction down into a set of rules to memorize. The thinking goes that if one could just memorize some pattern that he could be the jedi master and finally one could gain a sense of power and control over relationships.

Here's what I think. It doesn't make any difference, just do whatever you want and people will still be attracted to you. If anything is preventing that from happening, it's more than likely you're already trying too hard and worrying too much.

 

[Sandow]

Don't pay too much attention to all these rules. Like ask five questions in exactly 20 mins....Then move onto rapport phase and that should last exactly 25 mins with two opem ended questions. Forget that shyt, just go with the flow and don't think too much

 

[Magnatolia]

Well it was actually a sample of 'magic bullets' by savoy.

I agree about that, but I find it hard to transition from comfort to attraction. An example:

Me: Hey guys, hows your night going?
Them: really good, and yours? - note they had large smiles and high-energy voices
Me: Yeah same, just got out of karaoke - that was so much fun
HB7: Cool, what did you sing

Anyway, she asked what I sung, I asked if they'd been to the place before (not a lame question, its not mainstream place and up a flight of stairs). They mentioned it was their first time blah blah.

And then that was it. Their friends came over, they talked about something then left.

So obviously I was just the fun guy at the bar, but naturally I want to be more than that. So how do I transition to something more? I'm not into seduction routines and all that crap.

Thanks.

 

[ready123]

Hey guys,

I read that an approach should last for a minimum of 20 mins in the attraction stage. And that I shouldn't ask personal questions during this time.

So what the heck do you say if you can't ask personal questions?

I've broken all of these