"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is this too soon to call?

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Got the number from some HB8 this sunday at a BBQ. Seemed interested, she remembered me from a party one nite when I was wasted so I couldn't say the same about her. Gave me the number and I want to try to set something up for thursday nite. Is that too soon? I know i'm overanalyzing, just wondering what you guys think.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Effington said:
Nah, not too soon. Go for it.

Let us know how it goes.
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No answer, didn't leave VM. I'll just call back another time.
 
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Always leave a message! I have a rule that I will only return phone calls if they leave a message. Otherwise, it obviously wasn't important enough. Now you have to call her a second time in a row. I try to keep the calling to a 1:1 ratio.
 
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Effington said:
Always leave a message! I have a rule that I will only return phone calls if they leave a message. Otherwise, it obviously wasn't important enough. Now you have to call her a second time in a row. I try to keep the calling to a 1:1 ratio.
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Good points, next time I will leave one. I'm just bad at phone game and hate leaving messages for anyone. Shold I call it back now and just leave one? If she asks why I didnt leave one the first time I could just play it off sayin I got another call. If not how many days u think I should wait?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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