"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Is this too extreme for real life? Watch this short film.

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A short film called "Dennis"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V1zFeHJzS5E

The guy is a monster bodybuilder but STILL carries himself as an ultimate beta...the guy bombs with women and even skinny slacker-looking guys don't seem to respect him.

Isn't lifting weights and developing a good physique integral to carrying yourself with alpha confidence?

If something like what you see here can happen to a massive real bodybuilder, then how can us regular guys be sure to carry ourselves well should we get into good shape (not even bodybuilder massive)?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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so damn BETA said:
A short film called "Dennis"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V1zFeHJzS5E

The guy is a monster bodybuilder but STILL carries himself as an ultimate beta...the guy bombs with women and even skinny slacker-looking guys don't seem to respect him.

Isn't lifting weights and developing a good physique integral to carrying yourself with alpha confidence?

If something like what you see here can happen to a massive real bodybuilder, then how can us regular guys be sure to carry ourselves well should we get into good shape (not even bodybuilder massive)?
I haven't posted here for quite sometimes now but your recent postings: thread 1 ,thread 2, and now this one demand a respond. It seems deep inside, you have an idea of what or who you would like to be around this time of your life (at 40 yrs old) but you are not willing to work for it. Or at least do not have the will power to work for it. Let's take your current work situations for example. As you mentioned in your other posts, you have been doing the same hourly job for the past 8 years while your college degree is sitting somewhere collecting dusts. Granted, not all college graduates are guaranteed their dream jobs but most that try to make their hard-earned degrees worthwhile make it useful. You on the other hand can't even get promoted at a job you have been doing for 8 years and your boss would rather hire an outsider to fill a vacant position than to promote you. See where I am going? This is not to demean you or your job but it is for you to take a hard look at yourself and your lifestyles. It all boils down to the way you internalize things.

In one of your earlier posts , AAAgents, post #19, gave some solid examples or reasons of why it is important to work on your inner self. He even suggest book for you to take a look at (read) which can be obtained free of charge with a few google search. Yet you seemed more concerned with those that gave you a constructive criticism. My suggestions to you is to go back to that post, read/re-read what AAAgent's posted and try to soak in what he said. There are no experts on here on any particular topic. We are all here to brainstorm ideas. Take what you like and ignore others based on a common sense approach.

Regarding the youtube video, Dennis had the courage to call the girl. Went on a date, even though his mother did not want him to. He biked to the date. Took the girl to a pizza restaurant. Went with girl to meet her friend. And more importantly, he left the house when he wanted to. The question is: would you rather be Dennis or so_damn_BETA? Do you have the courage to do what you want to do without feeling sorry for yourself or others? Do you have what it takes to go back in time, get that guitar and resume playing like you did several years ago?
 
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Holy feck that movie is depressing. Sure he broke the bonds of his mommy just a little, but in the end he was back to being her little boy....he'll never escape..........
 

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so damn BETA said:
If something like what you see here can happen to a massive real bodybuilder, then how can us regular guys be sure to carry ourselves well should we get into good shape (not even bodybuilder massive)?
BTW...it's just a movie with actors following a script....it's not real life buddy.
 

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That's Kim Kold, 6'4'' 308lbs...huge!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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MaddXMan said:
Holy feck that movie is depressing. Sure he broke the bonds of his mommy just a little, but in the end he was back to being her little boy....he'll never escape..........
That was actually a short that later became a movie with a full blown story.

And in the end, he found himself a lady and told his mom to take a hike.

BTW, the actor (OP, you DO realize this is a make believe story, right?), I'd say he's been pretty successful (from IBD):

Kim Kold is a former football (soccer) goalkeeper, who in 1993 at 27 years of age suffered a serious injury in his Achilles tendon. He was sent to the gym doing rehabilitation training. He took up an interest in bodybuilding and started competing in 1997. He won the Danish National Bodybuilding Championship in 2006. He has been working as locksmith in Denmark for several years during his bodybuilding career, and today he is the owner of his own security business in Puerto Banus, Spain.
 

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taiyuu_otoko said:
That was actually a short that later became a movie with a full blown story.

And in the end, he found himself a lady and told his mom to take a hike.

BTW, the actor (OP, you DO realize this is a make believe story, right?), I'd say he's been pretty successful (from IBD):
i actually enjoyed the movie. its fantasy for sure, i mean everyone knows its fiction but i actually liked it


his mother is a paranoid pseudo-lesbian.... he is insecure and is looking for a second mommy.....you guys should watch it
btw in the short film , the girl REALLY wants his meatstick , but he acts beta so ...yeah....
 
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