Is this "the test"?

[Crucio]

I have been on three dates with this girl. She had just got out of a long relationship (almost 3 years). On our third date, which was last Thursday, we finally had our first kiss. She was extremely excited when she left and even left me a message saying how great the dinner that we made together was.

Here's where it gets funny. As she was leaving we talked about a possible double date on Saturday. I realized on Friday that I worked Saturday, so called her to let her know I wouldn't be able to make it. She said " I'll live." I didn't contact her until today after that. I asked he rout for Friday which happens to be the only day I have off this week. She said " Hmm Friday is tough, my day is pretty packed." to which I replied " Alright, that was the only time i had free this week" Once again she comes with the "I'll live lol" To which I replied in a joking manner with "I would hope so, wouldn't want you to die of Matt withdrawals". She replied with "That won't happen I promise lol"

Is this some kind of test? It is completely different than the manner in which she had been acting before.

 

[st_99]

Not sure and it doesn't matter. Just stay in control of your emotions and try not to care.

 

[Crucio]

Ok. So just completely ignore it....

 

[disgustipated]

Did you let her out ****y/funny you?

That last remark could've been responded to in any matter of ways to let her know you also aren't sweatin her too hard. Instead you let her throw that out there with no response...giving her the last word and upperhand. I can picture her thinking that last one crushed ya into silence.

And this is why I hate text/fb crap because a lot of times what they type dont sync up with how they act one on one, it's not to be taken too seriously..it's not a man's domain to DWELL in. Use it though. Pop in and out for short periods of time and zing and barb but don't be a chatty Kathy like all the other chicks/chumps they know.

I don't have much game but I woulda came back with somethin that woulda placed more value on yourself while not being insulting to her at the same time. Kinda teasing but ****y too.

 

[Crucio]

Good point. I told her a friend had showed up at my place so I had to go, but i should have hit her with something back......any suggestions for a reply to that? Something like "Just in case you might want to keep 911 on speed dial"?

 

[Jariel]

You cancelled on her and rejected a counter offer, so she's just playing cool by the look of it. Just make another date with her and stick to it.

 

[st_99]

Ok. So just completely ignore it....

Basically just have a care free attitude is the point. Do what you want
but do it with the mind set of, 'I can take or leave you, its not a big deal to me'

Everything goes a lot smoother that way. But yeah, easier said than done. That doesn't mean to be an a-hole, just not to uptight about wanting to get with her. It sounds like you're already thinking waaay too hard about her.

 

[disgustipated]

Kinda open ended. Personally I don't like using the word "just" for anything, it sounds too supplicating or like you're trying to qualify everthing that comes after it. And the word might in that sentence is like an option. Make a statement. Don't ask a question or a weak sac statement.

If I was to use that exact sentence I would just say...**** that you better keep 911 on speed dial. Small changes and that alone is not going to score you no ***** but it's more take charge type of attitude. You're the man afterall and you're the prize, you set the tone not her right?

 

[Iceberg]

Basically just have a care free attitude is the point. Do what you want
but do it with the mind set of, 'I can take or leave you, its not a big deal to me'

Everything goes a lot smoother that way. But yeah, easier said than done. That doesn't mean to be an a-hole, just not to uptight about wanting to get with her. It sounds like you're already thinking waaay too hard about her.

That's exactly right.

You can't let a woman's comments knock you off your game. It's hard to do when a girl gets REALLY disrespectful, but in moments like this, it just comes with the territory.

There is no cool response to it. No need for all this ****y/funny stuff. Just be you. You could have said, "I'm sure you will. I'll see you next time." and that'd be the end of it.

I think once you have enough ups and downs with dating, you'll realize that it's no big deal to lose a chick or two. And once you realize that, you won't worry about what "I'll live" is supposed to mean. If I were in your shoes, I'd be like "Damn. This chick must really be hurt by my cancellation. She needs to loosen up." But right now, YOU sound like the one who's hurt and needs to loosen up a bit. Don't let her issues bug you.