Is this the biggest mistake in my life until now? :(

[Sansj]

hey guys

Have beene somedays since i broke it off with my girlfrind. We have talked after this. Becus she wantet to know why i broke it off. And i wondered why she had been acting that strange. Well i got the full raport now. And it have got me stright in the heart. Kinda sad right now

Well ill tell ya what happened. About 3 weeks ago i was i Cypros with my frinds.we were there 2 weeks. Alot of drinking i might add. My girlfrind was at home. And one night i had managed to say that i had sex with a swedish girl way back in time before her. And i think i managed to say that it was good. i cant remember saying it. think i was drunk. And after i sad that she told me that she got unsure and that things changed.

But why did she ackt up like this just now. And not when i got home from Ayia napa. I dont know. I later told here i lied to here about the swedish girl and that i just made it up to use agenst here when we hade a fight over the phone down there. And thats the trouth. Dont think that helped.

She told me today that if i hadent told her that "stupid" thing. things would still bee good between us. But she told me thats she wasent any better. Becus there was somthing she hadent told me. She wanted to say it but wasnt sure. i dont have a clue about what it is. hope to talk things out tonight. And see were things go from there. Just had to get it of my chest. i have been sooooo freaking heartbroken over this. the things i sad to her under the break up hadent been true and i know that i wasnt any thought was wrong. and now i dont have a reason why i broke up... :*( i hate this love thing. Makes me sad and week.. Miss her like mad. wanna make things right but im not sure eather.. comfusing

Anything to coment on this guys. Dont know what to do. just wanna cry..
Think i need one more slap.!

Thanks..

 

[The Gamer]

SLAP!!!!

hahaha. Biggest mistake of your life is messing up with your girlfriend? You've either made all the right choices or your a *****.

 

[Warrior74]

So let me get this straight.

You were drunk.

You told your girlfriend you had good sex with some swed before you met her.

You lied about it to her, or gave her a weak cover up story.

Now she has 'something' to tell you that you don't know about.

And your relationship is over.



Not the biggest mistake in life. Your biggest mistake with herwas telling her about other girls in the first place. You made it worse by coming back and saying it was all a lie. It makes you seem weird, untrustworthy and incongruent.

Now she is using this to gather up all the power in the relationship and either own you or dump you. She'll probably tell you she slept with some other guy or one of your friends and watch to see how you react.

Get over this love stuff and grab your balls and deal with the matter. Keep your emotions in check right now. If you want to save this relationship you are gonna have to sort yourself out and keep your wits about you.

Good luck.

 

[WC2]

So let me get this straight.

You were drunk.

You told your girlfriend you had good sex with some swed before you met her.

You lied about it to her, or gave her a weak cover up story.

Now she has 'something' to tell you that you don't know about.

And your relationship is over.



Not the biggest mistake in life. Your biggest mistake with herwas telling her about other girls in the first place. You made it worse by coming back and saying it was all a lie. It makes you seem weird, untrustworthy and incongruent.

Now she is using this to gather up all the power in the relationship and either own you or dump you. She'll probably tell you she slept with some other guy or one of your friends and watch to see how you react.

Get over this love stuff and grab your balls and deal with the matter. Keep your emotions in check right now. If you want to save this relationship you are gonna have to sort yourself out and keep your wits about you.

Good luck.

Even though you telling her about this girl was like a slap to the face, I have a feeling that she was thinking about cutting things off before this happened.

Is it that hard to imagine that maybe SHE got to know another man better while you were away?

Women rarely get rid of men permanently over an old sexual escapade or whatever. Women actually thrive off this sometimes, as they want to make sure they are at the top notch on your belt.

Women almost always get rid of men because they have found a new one, or at least better sex (sorry to say). They will never admit it, but 9 times out of 10 this is what occurs. There could have been a lot pushing her, but the bottom line is that she is not interested in a relationship any more. It's the end game. 100%.

If your ex was really into you then she would have gotten over these stupid stories from the past and she would be with you right now. Sadly, I don't think the interest is there anymore.

Biggest mistake of your life? haha! Do me a favor and repeat what you said. You are saying a woman is causing the biggest mistake of your life. The biggest mistake of your life could be letting up on goals, giving up on your ambitions, killing someone, raping someone, but definitely NOT breaking up with an ex. Give yourself a good month or so and you'll realize how true it really is.

 

[Slick101]

Meet up with her and talk to her....

Tell her your sorry,,,, it was your mistake... and as alll human beings people make mistakes and deserve second chances...

Tell her, "Whether you believe me or not, I did not do it... there is no way I can prove it to you... I can only tell you,, because my job is to tell you... your job is to accept it or reject it.... holding grudges does not do any good"

Put some sence in her man, Any man can manipulate a girl.... Now shes manipulating you!
FVCK THAT!!

Tell me how it went... I really want to knowww

 

[SmoothTalker]

I think 95% likely I can already tell you how that will go. Very badly.

Dump her first and cut contact, she will almost certainly come back within a few weeks. At that time something little like your current fight can be brushed under the carpet if you want her back.

 

[WC2]

Meet up with her and talk to her....

Tell her your sorry,,,, it was your mistake... and as alll human beings people make mistakes and deserve second chances...

Tell her, "Whether you believe me or not, I did not do it... there is no way I can prove it to you... I can only tell you,, because my job is to tell you... your job is to accept it or reject it.... holding grudges does not do any good"

Put some sence in her man, Any man can manipulate a girl.... Now shes manipulating you!
FVCK THAT!!

Tell me how it went... I really want to knowww

Yes thats right, take total blame for her NEXTING you over a stupid story.

This is AFC behavior. The only thing this will do is give her the affirmation that you are still head over heels for her, while she really just isn't into you.

The only consequence in which you need to apologize to a woman if she nexts you is if you cheat on her. And if you're cheating on her, chances are you probably aren't that invested in the relationship anyways.

I'd stay away from advice like this.

 

[young_gun]

Meet up with her and talk to her....

Tell her your sorry,,,, it was your mistake... and as alll human beings people make mistakes and deserve second chances...

Tell her, "Whether you believe me or not, I did not do it... there is no way I can prove it to you... I can only tell you,, because my job is to tell you... your job is to accept it or reject it.... holding grudges does not do any good"

Put some sence in her man, Any man can manipulate a girl.... Now shes manipulating you!
FVCK THAT!!

Tell me how it went... I really want to knowww

Honestly, the stupidest advice I've ever heard anyone give someone else in my entire life.

Congratulations.

 

[I'm Charming]

Yeah, dont do the whole apology thing, I think it was DonGordon that said something like;

"It's impossible for a woman to fathom sympathy and respect for a man at the same time. Don't apologise."

I stick by that. It's good advice.

 

[Slick101]

Yes thats right, take total blame for her NEXTING you over a stupid story.

This is AFC behavior. The only thing this will do is give her the affirmation that you are still head over heels for her, while she really just isn't into you.

The only consequence in which you need to apologize to a woman if she nexts you is if you cheat on her. And if you're cheating on her, chances are you probably aren't that invested in the relationship anyways.

I'd stay away from advice like this.

Men need to understand that they are not always right.... You said he should apologize if he cheated on her... welll he told her he did.... Weather he ACTUALLY CHEATED ON HER and told her he did..... or he didnt cheat on her BUT HE TOLD HER HE DID.... She would still think he did.... Look at what Im saying.... Its how SHE will look at it...

It was his mistake he joked with her when he was drunk... bad move.... he would be a man if he apologizes to her ... he wouldnt be a man if he apologizes to her and then begs for her back...

BTW If she doesnt take your apology Dump her

THE END

 

[WC2]

Men need to understand that they are not always right.... You said he should apologize if he cheated on her... welll he told her he did.... Weather he ACTUALLY CHEATED ON HER and told her he did..... or he didnt cheat on her BUT HE TOLD HER HE DID.... She would still think he did.... Look at what Im saying.... Its how SHE will look at it...

It was his mistake he joked with her when he was drunk... bad move.... he would be a man if he apologizes to her ... he wouldnt be a man if he apologizes to her and then begs for her back...

BTW If she doesnt take your apology Dump her

THE END

Understood.

Only if you look back, I don't think he cheated on her. He was talking about a girl from the past. That is irrelevant.

Girls who complain about past flings with other women and then continue to act by nexting you DO NOT deserve an apology.

You must understand that she is using this as an EXCUSE masked as a legitimate reason to move on from him. In reality the real reason is much darker. I guess you have to have "experienced" it to really know what I'm talking about.

The end, thank you.

 

[slickaz]

i wouldnt be surprised if she came back and told him.
"umm i been fvkn your best friend..."

lol..

"im 2 months pregnant, it aint yours"...ouch!

 

[Slick101]

Understood.

Only if you look back, I don't think he cheated on her. He was talking about a girl from the past. That is irrelevant.

Girls who complain about past flings with other women and then continue to act by nexting you DO NOT deserve an apology.

You must understand that she is using this as an EXCUSE masked as a legitimate reason to move on from him. In reality the real reason is much darker. I guess you have to have "experienced" it to really know what I'm talking about.

The end, thank you.

11 months into my LTR that lives in NJ I live in NY...

HB9 attending princton Univ... Smart, beautiful, great personality...

Experience you tell me?....Read my current posts.... Ive prob. been thorugh more sh;t with my LTR than have of these people on the forums.... Im not bragging... Alot of people here are actually helping me get over my probs.

And anyways lets talk about whats Relavent shall we

I misread that it was the past when he had sex.... I thought it was while he went on Vac. he fvcked her.... In That case... I will say Im sorry... and he should dump this broad and burry her....

THE END, Your Welcome

 

[Sansj]

"Is this the biggest mistake so far" Know how stupid i sound like now. I have just been thinking too much. Well i think i have it under "somwhat" controll now. I tryed to talk to here on sunday. But it dident go far. So if shes mad at med becus i screwed up saying what i did. and cant forgive me. Well thats fine. NEXT!

If a thing like that can screw up a stabil relationship. She surly have a "dark" seacret she havent told me. And that might be that she sleept with here ex or sowhat. Dont think i wanna know what it is. So i have cut off all contact and deletet her from my life. hope she can stay away tho. She showed up at my work yesterday. And have sent med sms asking about alot of things. Well think its time to fokus and move on. and dont look back. hopefully i do the right thing now. Thanks guys for slaping me back on track /love!

 

[EastWind]

Your only mistake was apologizing for telling her about the swedish girl. It made you seem sorry for being a guy who has sex. Your telling her about having good sex with other girls made her HOT for you because it reinforced the notion that you are a desirable man.

However that also means she is at risk of losing you, so she fired back and tried to control you - telling you that she's unsure how things are now. She wanted to see if you'd apologize and give her power.

And that you did, which made her attraction for you plummet. She now knows that she can manipulate you with her feelings. You should have laughed, said "Yeah, I understand" and left. She'd have called you back within a week.

Not to say you should constantly be telling/bragging about your sexual adventures. But subtle storytelling can work wonders. But the most important thing here is to never be sorry for being a man, that is, for being a sexual being.

 

[Sansj]

hehe yeah i screwed up bad. Well what ya gonna do. Learned a lesson out of this tho