Is this the best way to handle a break up?

[Johnny21422]

So I just had a talk with one of my buddies who had a break up 8 months ago they had a 4 year relationship. The girl fell out of love maybe (GIGS) w/ no 3rd party involve

basically he told me stuff what he did to move on and how to handle the ex after the break up and now after 8 months it seems the ex gf wanted to get back with him but he doesn't want her back anymore..

So here's the thing he did told me

- He did not remove the ex from facebook he just stayed away from all social media and basically started improve himself going to gym, financial, job.

- He never contacts the ex after break up

- When the ex text or called he answer indifferent or he is busy so he needs to go and sometimes he doesn't reply when he feels he doesn't need to reply..

Like he doesn't give a f*ck mentality. He said that dealing with the break up is hard but he needed to tell himself everyday when he wakes up that is over from day 1.

He said that removing ex in facebook and ignoring seems immature for him. So he just left the ex there and he never keeps tab on what she is doing..
but he knows his boundaries he said. There are times like they NC for 2 months and ex suddenly contacts him but he doesn't care what she says or wants..

He just started living his life and just treated the ex like a normal person when she contacts him. He also said that he replies when he finish all the things he needed to finish.. he doesn't make the ex priority in his life.

Listen guys I am not saying you should follow all the things that he did. every situation is different.

maybe this guy.. this is just how he handled the break up perfectly..

What do you guys think Is this better than doing No Contact and Ignoring?

 

[abe0]

I think he handled it great. The bottom line is that he does not give a sh*t about her and either doing his way or the no contact way...the result is the same...he has moved on, he is happy, and he is mentally and emotionally in a good place.
I think what happens with some guys is that unless you do no contact...that a lot guys still keep dwelling on what the x is doing and fail to move on. This guy has done a great job in moving on...and he did it his way. More power to him. It is not that the way he did it is better than no contact....it is that the way he did it was the best way for him and that is what worked for him. Abe

 

[donking]

Post breakup, don't initiate contact the ex. Whatever name you give it low contact, no contact - doesn't matter. I usually just cut everything off first so I can heal fast.

The main thing is to build yourself back up since when you get into a relationship, a lot of things you would be doing otherwise such as working out, hobbies, hanging out with your bros kind of gets put to the side. I would say having a few ex girlfriends that you are on relatively good contact (no one-itis) with will help you in the end though.

It's almost impossible to earn a woman's loyalty these days.

 

[Night-hawk]

Good stuff.