"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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pingpongz

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Hey guys, so long story short i had a date with a HB10 last friday, she hasn't returned my texts/call since then. Gonna give it one more shot then call it a day with her.
Basically i ****ed up cause i negged far far too hard (still got a 20 min kiss though :D )

Heres the text im going to send :

"Hey, im actually kicking myself for some of the things i said on friday, truth is i was a little nervous! Guess im not getting that second date then?"

This is going to be my last shot without seeming desperate, any advice is appreciated!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Jaggs

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Without seeming desperate? lol

Whatever you do, do NOT send that text.

It shows you've been over thinking the situation, that your not confident and that you assume she doesn't like you ("guess im not getting that second date!") <<< wtf.

complete wrong messages to be sending to her.
 
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pingpongz

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Jaggs said:
Without seeming desperate? lol

Whatever you do, do NOT send that text.

Yeh i just read it Lol dunno what i was thinking... lucky i didn't send it :D

Hows this one? :

"Hey, you never told me what time on wednesday you'd like to meet up,, hows 8 sound? Lets go see "<insert film here>" "
 

Randallpink83

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Don't send anything. Move on... She's ignoring you.


...The only chance I could foresee you having, is she gets uncomfortable in a week or two after not hearing from you and then curiously sends you a "hey how have you been?" type text. And then you might be able to work from there.


But for the time being, next this girl from your thoughts.



...Or if you insist on texting her still. go with Tims advice (that was practically invented for this type of situation i.e. girl ignoring you) and just text her "your sh!t". make sure to spell it like "your"... "your sh!t". lol. she might respond to that.. and then carry on with a sarcastic light-hearted "you are cruel and making me sad" bit. ;)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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46and2aheadofme

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If you have access to parties or clubs you should make her apart of a mass text message inviting her. Something like "Ayo party at _____ tonight and you are cordially invited to come get ****ty and have a good time. See you there -<insert your name (clarifying its not a message that is just sent to he)r>" This is strategic for 2 reasons: 1.)because it shows that she is not special to you (since you made her apart of a message sent to multiple people) yet you still get to find out if shes interested in seeing you again. And 2.) It demonstrates that you are a fun sociable guy with all the hook-ups to the fun stuff going on. If she responds to the text that is a good sign. If she doesn't respond there is no need to ever call or text her again. Also, there is a slight possibility she doesn't respond but still shows up (maybe with some hot friends to boot). Hope this helps.

P.S. Get Your D Wet *salutes*
 

Groovy

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The general rules I have to prevent this kinds of should I send this? situations are: I'm the prize. I'm the man not some emasculated *****. (chicks LOVE power!) And I must know, at least more or less, if she's going to respond well or not.

If not... Do it anyway. :D Who cares if she doesn't like it?! You win, you know if it was worth it or not, and next time, you can correct your mistakes, which ever they are. (Was too needy, etc). Also, lets remind ourselves to have IMAGINATION. Convos are RANDOM and we dunno what's gonna happen, so we have to improve a truly amazing skill: WIT! :D If you wanna be good at texting... wit is essential imo.

To valuate that message: That was insecure (You justifyed yourslef... WTF?) AND needy. You could have said something along the lines of: I LOVED to mess with yuo on sunday! You're the cutest when you're angry. We totally have to meet up again at ______.

I just made that up. :D Dunno if it would work, tbh. But i can tell it would make a interresting conversation.

Anyways good luck I hope i helped!

oh, why not phone her? much funner isn't it?
 

MisterMcGee

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"You're cute when you're angry" seems like a perfect line. Tell her you were just playing with her, did it for your enjoyment, find her cute, aren't affected by her being angry over little things, that it wasn't a big deal, that it was all fun and games, etc.
 

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46and2aheadofme said:
If you have access to parties or clubs you should make her apart of a mass text message inviting her. Something like "Ayo party at _____ tonight and you are cordially invited to come get ****ty and have a good time. See you there -<insert your name (clarifying its not a message that is just sent to he)r>" This is strategic for 2 reasons: 1.)because it shows that she is not special to you (since you made her apart of a message sent to multiple people) yet you still get to find out if shes interested in seeing you again. And 2.) It demonstrates that you are a fun sociable guy with all the hook-ups to the fun stuff going on. If she responds to the text that is a good sign. If she doesn't respond there is no need to ever call or text her again. Also, there is a slight possibility she doesn't respond but still shows up (maybe with some hot friends to boot). Hope this helps.

P.S. Get Your D Wet *salutes*

Genius man...that is a great idea. I have a couple of girls that could work with. A+
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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