"Hear this, and hear it clearly. They are not going to get better. Ever. There is nothing you can do, no kindness you can extend, no sympathy you can embrace, no psychological slight-of-hand, nor the culmination of wisdom from your entire life’s experience that you can bring to bear to make a BPD anything other than a major, life draining pain in the ass and a potential nightmare waiting to destroy everything you have, inside and out."
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Is this statement true about BPD woman
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Pretty much tbh.
At least in my experience, I had a diagnosed borderline in my life for about 3 years and she was a lost cause sadly. Hell bent on destroying herself and thus taking anyone close down with her.
I still hear from her almost monthly to this day
At least in my experience, I had a diagnosed borderline in my life for about 3 years and she was a lost cause sadly. Hell bent on destroying herself and thus taking anyone close down with her.
I still hear from her almost monthly to this day
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I've read that article...and yes its true. I swear, it's been over a year and I still get texts even though it's been almost 7 months since I've replied. Life draining pain in the a$$ is a perfect description. I stay No Contact for my own sanity. You should do the same.