"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Is this something that makes sense (something girl said during sex)

fruitopiax

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Ok so I met this girl right took her to the movies and then had her back in my room the 2 days later. So I'm fingering her and when I can tell she's getting into it she pulls away. And I ask why and she says something about pleasure and leading to more. She told me she couldn't have sex with me that night because it was only the 2nd day I met her. A little later when Im actually ****ing her she starts going yea yea thats good faster faster or whatever, so I start going faster and she pulls away again. And is like lets just cuddle. I broke through the cuddling thing too and switched positions with her, but anyone have a girl say that to them like that before? Just doesnt make sense to me
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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BMX

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Be sure to use a bit of FOREPLAY
 

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fruitopiax said:
Ok so I met this girl right took her to the movies and then had her back in my room the 2 days later. So I'm fingering her and when I can tell she's getting into it she pulls away. And I ask why and she says something about pleasure and leading to more. She told me she couldn't have sex with me that night because it was only the 2nd day I met her. A little later when Im actually ****ing her she starts going yea yea thats good faster faster or whatever, so I start going faster and she pulls away again. And is like lets just cuddle. I broke through the cuddling thing too and switched positions with her, but anyone have a girl say that to them like that before? Just doesnt make sense to me
Sounds like you werent doing a thing right and she didn't want to bruise your ego by telling you so.
 

mintxx

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the second time she does that you get dressed and kick her out, and don't call her
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Brians_600rr

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dude next time she says something like "lets cuddle" or "i cant have sex with u" just roll over and snore HELLA LOUD!!! its pretty funny and gets the point across that shes being boring.. good luck bro

and i also agree with mintxx
 

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If you were fvcking her right she should be screaming and unable to talk, it is impossible for her to stop you at this stage.

Just work on your sexual techniques.
 

GoodButNotGreat

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I had that happen to me kinda recently, she said she couldn't kiss me, but we ended up doing that and more just a little bit later in the night. It was the first time I hung out with her 1 on 1, so its probably the comfort factor and she doesn't want to come off as easy.
 
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