Sorry for the long post, I didn't want to miss any details and want to demonstrate the girls interest level as time went on.
Met this girl online about 4 weeks ago. She was new to the site and her interest level was ultra high and although she was working 7 straight days 10-12 hour shifts she made time to meet up first chance she got. Date was going great and she asked me if I had any other dates lined up from other girls on the site and I said I had a couple set up. She seemed a bit disappointed but added "well as long as you're being honest" and also added I was the first guy she had met so far cause she said she felt a connection to me more than the other guys. She also dropped a lot of compliments indicating she had a high level of attraction in addition to our solid connection.
Went back to my place to hang out but I didn't f-close. She kept saying stuff like "I really want to but I can't otherwise I'll never hear from you again" I tried to pull back, push forward etc. but couldn't get through resistance so whatever I'll leave it and go for another time.
She was super down for date number 2, but unfortunately we had to reschedule as I was sick. We rescheduled to her next off day which was the following week. But 4 days after, on Friday, she texted me asking what I was up to that evening? I was still recovering from being ill but I just said I had plans but would definitely see her next week. I was not over-texting at all as her responses were still super fast whereas I would take a few hours to reply and kept the chatter/banter to a minimum.
We finally met up and the date went well. It was in the early evening as I had other commitments later on at night, but we still went back to my place and hung out. Again she asked me "Have you seen any of the other girls...?" and I casually said "Oh I met up with one or two of them..." and she again said "Well, as long as you're being honest...". When I asked her back she quickly said no and added she had been talking with some of them but hadn't met up with any. I'm not sure which part of the date this occurred but definitely in the second half. She also half jokingly asked me why I took so long responding to her texts and I said I was busy and sometimes forgot to reply.
But she did have her usual unprovoked compliments and even added "I think you'd be really good in bed" lol. She was actually dealing with a recent injury that actually made things a bit harder/awkward, she gave a lot of resistance again and I didn't close.
Next day I text her to meet up, she responds pretty quickly but this time isn't quite so exact with her schedule. I tell her to get back to me and says she's sick and can't make the proposed date 3 days in advance. Her texts dropped to basically nothing, and when I checked in 4 days later she said she was feeling a lot better but when I asked about her availability she didn't get back to me until a day later and gave a flaky response. So basically her interest level dropped severely from one day to the next, seemingly out of the blue. Something must've happened on the date imo.
She is pretty insecure to be honest, and the fact she kept asking me if I'm seeing other girls is somewhat telling. I understand that in general girls are attracted to guys that have options and are sought after, but maybe my delivery wasn't the best or maybe she is annoyed by the fact I'm seeing other people? I remember on our first date she seemed strongly against men/women seeing multiple people at once so this is something I might've overlooked at the time.
I don't want to chase her or anything, but I do find it extremely strange that a girl who had been texting/pursuing me for over 3 weeks, and even drops lots of compliments on the date, basically goes cold the next day. Normally I would just go ghost/move on from her, but I can't help but feel like this is salvageable given it might be a miscommunication or something that can be explained. And maybe she is upset and has decided to ignore me instead of actually having open communication.
Met this girl online about 4 weeks ago. She was new to the site and her interest level was ultra high and although she was working 7 straight days 10-12 hour shifts she made time to meet up first chance she got. Date was going great and she asked me if I had any other dates lined up from other girls on the site and I said I had a couple set up. She seemed a bit disappointed but added "well as long as you're being honest" and also added I was the first guy she had met so far cause she said she felt a connection to me more than the other guys. She also dropped a lot of compliments indicating she had a high level of attraction in addition to our solid connection.
Went back to my place to hang out but I didn't f-close. She kept saying stuff like "I really want to but I can't otherwise I'll never hear from you again" I tried to pull back, push forward etc. but couldn't get through resistance so whatever I'll leave it and go for another time.
She was super down for date number 2, but unfortunately we had to reschedule as I was sick. We rescheduled to her next off day which was the following week. But 4 days after, on Friday, she texted me asking what I was up to that evening? I was still recovering from being ill but I just said I had plans but would definitely see her next week. I was not over-texting at all as her responses were still super fast whereas I would take a few hours to reply and kept the chatter/banter to a minimum.
We finally met up and the date went well. It was in the early evening as I had other commitments later on at night, but we still went back to my place and hung out. Again she asked me "Have you seen any of the other girls...?" and I casually said "Oh I met up with one or two of them..." and she again said "Well, as long as you're being honest...". When I asked her back she quickly said no and added she had been talking with some of them but hadn't met up with any. I'm not sure which part of the date this occurred but definitely in the second half. She also half jokingly asked me why I took so long responding to her texts and I said I was busy and sometimes forgot to reply.
But she did have her usual unprovoked compliments and even added "I think you'd be really good in bed" lol. She was actually dealing with a recent injury that actually made things a bit harder/awkward, she gave a lot of resistance again and I didn't close.
Next day I text her to meet up, she responds pretty quickly but this time isn't quite so exact with her schedule. I tell her to get back to me and says she's sick and can't make the proposed date 3 days in advance. Her texts dropped to basically nothing, and when I checked in 4 days later she said she was feeling a lot better but when I asked about her availability she didn't get back to me until a day later and gave a flaky response. So basically her interest level dropped severely from one day to the next, seemingly out of the blue. Something must've happened on the date imo.
She is pretty insecure to be honest, and the fact she kept asking me if I'm seeing other girls is somewhat telling. I understand that in general girls are attracted to guys that have options and are sought after, but maybe my delivery wasn't the best or maybe she is annoyed by the fact I'm seeing other people? I remember on our first date she seemed strongly against men/women seeing multiple people at once so this is something I might've overlooked at the time.
I don't want to chase her or anything, but I do find it extremely strange that a girl who had been texting/pursuing me for over 3 weeks, and even drops lots of compliments on the date, basically goes cold the next day. Normally I would just go ghost/move on from her, but I can't help but feel like this is salvageable given it might be a miscommunication or something that can be explained. And maybe she is upset and has decided to ignore me instead of actually having open communication.
