phil2015
Senior Don Juan
In regards to my bpd/narc ex who seemed to like starting issues/problems/arguments with me....I still feel bad and hold myself responsible for it all going wrong.
She seemed to enjoy the argument and try as I might, she wouldn't let things drop no matter how much I talked and explain things to her. I even read up on other resources whilst I was with her to prevent conflict, but it didn't help.
It's now 2 month later, and whilst I don't actually miss her as a person, I'm replaying things over in my mind and carrying the blame for it. I feel like I was the one being argumentative, and don't feel like much of a Man. I'm told I've been 'gaslit' which basically means I had all of the blame placed on me, whilst she accepts none and never will.
I need to resolve this before I can move on and am wondering if any of you feel anything similar. Even when the relationship has ended
She seemed to enjoy the argument and try as I might, she wouldn't let things drop no matter how much I talked and explain things to her. I even read up on other resources whilst I was with her to prevent conflict, but it didn't help.
It's now 2 month later, and whilst I don't actually miss her as a person, I'm replaying things over in my mind and carrying the blame for it. I feel like I was the one being argumentative, and don't feel like much of a Man. I'm told I've been 'gaslit' which basically means I had all of the blame placed on me, whilst she accepts none and never will.
I need to resolve this before I can move on and am wondering if any of you feel anything similar. Even when the relationship has ended