"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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WestCoast1492

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I was at a bar this weekend, and managed to strike up a long conversation with this cute blonde.

There was good social proofing, as my friends were talking to her friends and she was alone at the table. Nevertheless, it eventually got to being just me and her talking. Some decent kino, i made her check my pusle b/c she said she was a nursing student. She was asking me questions, not just 1 way.. But at some point, her friend came back and the conversation just died down. Is this a tangible thing, where if you don't make a really bold move she will lose interest. I tend to theorize there is a time period where you have to be successful in a bar atmosphere. Anybody else?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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