"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Is this legit?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Quite frankly I dont trust any combar tehcnique that doesnt involve you sweating and blooding for some good months in a gym.
Certain movements in order to be learned correctly and be done automatically
require a man to repeat them dozens and dozens of time.
Even a base movement like an armlock requires at least 100 times practice to be done well.
Certain movements in order to be learned correctly and be done automatically
require a man to repeat them dozens and dozens of time.
Even a base movement like an armlock requires at least 100 times practice to be done well.
In the end of the day all comes to a good timing. And you have to practice a lot to have a good timing and attitude. DVDs won't teach you that. it is better than nothing but....
And to be completely honest most techniques are pretty useless. The real fight is so messy that you have almost zero chance to using them.
For example a hold from a block....most of the time when someone tries to hit you, you are happy to avoid the punch and he retracts the hand or attacks with another so fast, you don't have the 2ms to hold his hand and send him flying.
Buy a punching bag and practice your punch for it is quite difficult to properly punch someone without breaking your hand and with enough speed he can't react. A good punch is solution to 90% of situations.
Make sure you stand light, so you can move out of the harms way or closer to attack. That's about it.
And to be completely honest most techniques are pretty useless. The real fight is so messy that you have almost zero chance to using them.
For example a hold from a block....most of the time when someone tries to hit you, you are happy to avoid the punch and he retracts the hand or attacks with another so fast, you don't have the 2ms to hold his hand and send him flying.
Buy a punching bag and practice your punch for it is quite difficult to properly punch someone without breaking your hand and with enough speed he can't react. A good punch is solution to 90% of situations.
Make sure you stand light, so you can move out of the harms way or closer to attack. That's about it.
I was under the impression that Krav Maga was the most effective self defense system in the world. Also it helps that it's popular enough to get one on one instruction in your area instead of some DVD.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
The video clip of "As seen on Bullsh*t!" piqued my interest—Bullsh*t! is one of my favorite shows. I got ahold of a copy of the episode and it dispells the usefulness of learning martial arts. I also found it very funny that the producers visited a karate school just a few minutes from my house.
What the video clip doesn't show is the criticism which immediately came after the clip. The Self Defense Co. is premised upon learning to apply deadly force and a martial arts expert criticizes, "The problem with most fighting systems, most martial arts is the assumption [by teachers] that their student is innocent, that their student is the victim. It's never that their student is out misbehaving. So what they'll do is train their people in this very aggressive fighting manner and call it self-defense… If you're going to claim it self-defense, you have to know self-defense laws, you have to understand what the standards of self-defense are in [insert your country]. I've seen neck break from behind of a down and unarmed opponent taught as self-defense. That's murder." And, "What is taught out as martial arts is actually fear management, not danger management. It doesn't actually address the issues of violence, much less self-defense."
Penn & Teller conclude,
What the video clip doesn't show is the criticism which immediately came after the clip. The Self Defense Co. is premised upon learning to apply deadly force and a martial arts expert criticizes, "The problem with most fighting systems, most martial arts is the assumption [by teachers] that their student is innocent, that their student is the victim. It's never that their student is out misbehaving. So what they'll do is train their people in this very aggressive fighting manner and call it self-defense… If you're going to claim it self-defense, you have to know self-defense laws, you have to understand what the standards of self-defense are in [insert your country]. I've seen neck break from behind of a down and unarmed opponent taught as self-defense. That's murder." And, "What is taught out as martial arts is actually fear management, not danger management. It doesn't actually address the issues of violence, much less self-defense."
Penn & Teller conclude,
I can't imagine the math being much different for Russia or even Brazil. So, Drdeee, I must ask, why does this deadly force interest you? Those dolphins must be killer.
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This seems to be the case, because if you look under the logo, it says "You will be feared". Now, how would you be feared unless you overtly display your abilities? Seems like they're marketing to insecure, angry guys.Deep Dish said:
He posted another thread on how to "achieve a mafia look", which leads me to believe he may be trying to become a badass, but not until he stops being edgy around dolphins.Deep Dish said:
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I didn't have to read any farther than that. Training by yourself doesn't work, because you can't tell when you are practicing incorrect technique. Then you just learn bad habits that actually make you harder to train when you do get a real instructor.
Training someone is as much of an art as the martial art itself. A new guy will make ten mistakes when he throws a punch, but telling him all ten critiques makes him overthink and he actually gets worse. A good trainer can pick out the one or two improvements that will help the most and only teach those, at least at first.
I didn't have to read any farther than that. Training by yourself doesn't work, because you can't tell when you are practicing incorrect technique. Then you just learn bad habits that actually make you harder to train when you do get a real instructor.
Training someone is as much of an art as the martial art itself. A new guy will make ten mistakes when he throws a punch, but telling him all ten critiques makes him overthink and he actually gets worse. A good trainer can pick out the one or two improvements that will help the most and only teach those, at least at first.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.