Is This Just A Phase?

[Jmac]

Im 17 yrs old, senior in HS and still a virgin. Sometimes I just dont know how to take it to that next level with girls that I really like. In HS looks do matter alot and their right up there with popularity. Im a fairly good looking guy and quite popular in school and everything.

But when it comes to girls Im uncertain about how to talk to them in a way to cause attraction. Like i flirt with girls and Im a bit humorous when I do it but talking to them on a serious sensual level thats my downfall. Like lets say Im on a date one on one with a girl. I understand Im the one in control and I have to make it happen. But how do I do that without coming on too strong?

 

[Huffman]

Read lots of stuff on here and try it out, all of it. Fail horribly countless times! Take what works - congratulations, you are now a pro.

 

[DanelMadr]

Im 17 yrs old, senior in HS and still a virgin. Sometimes I just dont know how to take it to that next level with girls that I really like. In HS looks do matter alot and their right up there with popularity. Im a fairly good looking guy and quite popular in school and everything.

But when it comes to girls Im uncertain about how to talk to them in a way to cause attraction. Like i flirt with girls and Im a bit humorous when I do it but talking to them on a serious sensual level thats my downfall. Like lets say Im on a date one on one with a girl. I understand Im the one in control and I have to make it happen. But how do I do that without coming on too strong?

You do that by getting rid of fear. Fear that you would look bad or that you offend the girl and she will never want to see you again. Believe it or not, girls are more likely to forgive boob grabbing way too early than indecision.

I know it is kinda hard for a virgin to be proactive with a girl but just don't be a total nervous mess. Make a decision and go for it with a cool head. Just don't be desperate, stay calm and treat your girl as a girl not a future mother of your children. Get rid of fears and enjoy the process.

 

[Jmac]

yea hopefully its just a phase. I recently got a BJ from a girl who was shy and it was her first time so Im getting more comfortable talkin to girls bout that stuff. But there is this one situation im having...


There is this one girl im really attracted to and the feeling is mutual, but she has a bf. Its something I just cant avoid I started flirting other girls and even had a sexual interaction with one recently over the break. But this one girl Im still just attracted to and I know it might not mean much to you but she keeps sending me signs that she likes me. We work together in every class even when the teacher moves seats she comes to sit with me or she calls me over.

Sometimes it feels as though she is daydreaming while looking at me and smiling. Curls her hair and laughs at my every joke and playfully hits me and whatever. I caught her looking at me a few times when I wasnt looking and she immediately just looked away when I caught her. I know she has a bf and all but shes feeling me and I cant help it but I feel the same way.

I feel as though im missing an opportunity by holding back and not trying to get at her. Its hard to just stop liking an attractive girl that is interested in you, even though I dont have "oneitis".

How should I try and get at her in this situation?

 

[Jmac]

Put it this way man, remove yourself from the situation. Put in another guy. Let's say he sleeps with her. He moves on in his life and continues sleeping with other chicks. She sleeps with him. She moves on in her life and develops a WIDE RANGE of romantic experiences including sleeping with non bf's, group orgies, spring break sex, etc. It is just part of a woman's life. They have no remorse as long as no one finds out.

I am not saying you should or shouldn't go for it. What I am saying is that whether or not you do, it has VERY LITTLE EFFECT on her future sexual experiences. Her trajectory is that of a wide range of experiences and you're just adding on to it. Women aren't innocent flowers. They fvck until the novelty is out of their system, until every fetish is explored, and then they look for a husband.

Oh ok I see. I just dont want to have this girl continuously running in my mind. Truthfully I want to fvck her badly like I fantasize about fvcking her while in class it sucks I cant help myself. Only thing is I just need to start talking to her on a more sensual level without coming off weird. Funny thing happened the other day.. we had a lesson of martial arts in gym and I was her partner(as usual), we had to get our partner in a headlock from the back. So I did it and she kept rubbing her ass on me and I couldn't help but think about banging her. Then all of a sudden I caught an ill boner and my shorts were thin. So I pretended to tie my shoe laces twice I dont thing she saw it but my friends watching us did. Embarrassing.

 

[Huffman]

If you're 17 and get *******s on a regular basis then what are you worrying about?

 

[Jmac]

If you're 17 and get *******s on a regular basis then what are you worrying about?

Lol I wish I was getting it everyday. But this is sooo annoying like I can't stop thinking about her smh. Like the other day I was at some girls house and she was giving me a handjob and all I could think about is if I was only doin it with her. I really hope this is not one itis but I remember anything we do. Like let's say she rubbed my leg or felt my abs in a flirty way ill keep it in mind. And even the bad things like if I see she may not be talkin to me much that day I start to think. I hate it. I know here on this site its not good to get carried away with one girl but I can't help it even though I'm getting play from other girls. Me and her were friends for some time and I recently started thinking about her a lot and just began feeling her. What will you guys do in this situation? Honestly.

 

[Jon55]

Explain to us how this is a tip.

 

[Jmac]

Explain to us how this is a tip.

I thought you can ask for tips, my bad. Anyway Ive gotten over this one girl. Theres this girl in my school she is like top 5 best looking in the school and I liked her for some time never got a chance to talk to her until one day in the computer lab. Im by myself working on something and she walks in with her friend(which I know). So she thinks Im cute and she likes me and we had a nice lil convo and everything. Only thing is I forgot to get her number :cuss:. Ill get it next time =\

 

[horaholic]

It all starts by grabbing your balls and going for it. Start by grabbing her hand and see how she reacts. If its not good, DO NOT apologize, just act as though everythings cool. a neutral reaction by her doesnt mean you're out either, it means get her laughing and try again.

 

[Jmac]

It all starts by grabbing your balls and going for it. Start by grabbing her hand and see how she reacts. If its not good, DO NOT apologize, just act as though everythings cool. a neutral reaction by her doesnt mean you're out either, it means get her laughing and try again.

ok I stopped thinking about her, but today in class I was working with these other girls for a change. We were having a good time, laughing and w.e and it seems she likes me too. So the other girl I was once attracted to kept looking at us and it seemed she was getting jealous. So math class came and she went to work with one of my friends I didnt care much cuz she just wanted to get me jealous I guess. I went to work with my friend (who is a girl) and she keeps peaking at us and stuff. Ill see how long this lasts, tomorrow we have gym and we work with partners. Should I just get a new partner and leave her?

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

ok I stopped thinking about her, but today in class I was working with these other girls for a change. We were having a good time, laughing and w.e and it seems she likes me too. So the other girl I was once attracted to kept looking at us and it seemed she was getting jealous. So math class came and she went to work with one of my friends I didnt care much cuz she just wanted to get me jealous I guess. I went to work with my friend (who is a girl) and she keeps peaking at us and stuff. Ill see how long this lasts, tomorrow we have gym and we work with partners. Should I just get a new partner and leave her?

Come on, boss.

Should you get a new partner and leave her? Who cares. No one wants to sit here and tell you what to do in 5th period French.

You see a girl you like? Talk to her about your weekend. Talk about all the fun you have. She'll talk about her weekend. Then, tell her how there's a show coming up or bowling or whatever, and say "You should come with me. What's your number."

That's it. You're 17. Remember this one bit of advice....if you gotta form a strategy as complex as "Should I get a new partner in gym class so I can get (X Girl) to date me?" then you're already losing. That's corny. Just f**king kick some type of game, get the digits, and meet the girl outside of school. There's nothing else to say. This situation is Sosuave 101. It's elementary.

Thinking about a girl this much already puts her up at some superstar status in your mind. The more you think, the more difficult you're making it on yourself.

 

[Jmac]

Come on, boss.

Should you get a new partner and leave her? Who cares. No one wants to sit here and tell you what to do in 5th period French.

You see a girl you like? Talk to her about your weekend. Talk about all the fun you have. She'll talk about her weekend. Then, tell her how there's a show coming up or bowling or whatever, and say "You should come with me. What's your number."

That's it. You're 17. Remember this one bit of advice....if you gotta form a strategy as complex as "Should I get a new partner in gym class so I can get (X Girl) to date me?" then you're already losing. That's corny. Just f**king kick some type of game, get the digits, and meet the girl outside of school. There's nothing else to say. This situation is Sosuave 101. It's elementary.

Thinking about a girl this much already puts her up at some superstar status in your mind. The more you think, the more difficult you're making it on yourself.

Yea true, this girl should not be on my mind so much even now Im not as attracted to her. Sorry Im a newbie so the advise I ask for reflect my inexperience, but Im working on it. Good news is I recently got a number of a 9. Bad news is she has a "bf", another good news is her bf is in georgia and she is the freaky type i hear.