Is This Just A Phase?

[Jmac]

Im 17 yrs old, senior in HS and still a virgin. Sometimes I just dont know how to take it to that next level with girls that I really like. In HS looks do matter alot and their right up there with popularity. Im a fairly good looking guy and quite popular in school and everything.

But when it comes to girls Im uncertain about how to talk to them in a way to cause attraction. Like i flirt with girls and Im a bit humorous when I do it but talking to them on a serious sensual level thats my downfall. Like lets say Im on a date one on one with a girl. I understand Im the one in control and I have to make it happen. But how do I do that without coming on too strong?

 

[Diaforetikos]

Watch movies with men who flirt and attract women. Copy what they do. That's how I learned. You gotta take risks when your talking sensual to a women. Be daring and never apologize for talking dirty. Just do it and never regret it.

 

[Audiophile]

Don't worry man, I was in your shoes last year, it is just a phase. You just have to practice talking to women, that's all. Sounds like simple advice, huh? You'll get more comfortable, and eventually you'll have no trouble being more sexual around women. Just get some new female friends that don't know you too well previously, and see how you do then. Since they won't have had any previous experience with you, you can show your best self.

It's all about not really giving a s**t, which will only come with more experience/time. Its nothing you can instill overnight.


To answer your original question, just don't worry about coming on too strong. Trust your gut and if you feel you should make a move, take action! Have fun with it, bring her into your own little world, and you two can connect. It doesn't matter if you talk to her or not, just make her FEEL connected to you. E.G: take her out on an action date, like ice skating, and you'll create a pretty memorable experience, and with the right attitude (Fun, carefree), you can make her lower her "emotional guard" she has set up. From then you can open up with more "sensual" conversation.

Or you can just cut to the point, depends on if you fancy yourself a romantic.