"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is this it?

BadsnakeUK

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I've just started dating this HB8.5 who's pretty much ideal for me. Problem is, she's really into me and I don't feel comfortable with her being this infatuated just for me being me. Yeah I suppose I'm a bit of a catch (work out a lot, play in a band etc) and I feel and act more like a man these days days than I ever used to, but she just seems to have gone loopy for me. I'm just wondering if this is really all it takes? How can someone fall for someone that hard just for them being themself? I know real men are hard to come by these days but even so... I've had to start disqualifying myself a little bit so she doesn't start getting that perfect man fantasy about me and then turn bitter when I don't live up to it.

I'm pretty sure she's not a crazy/BPD as I've dated a fair few of these before and I know ALL the red flags where those b1tches are concerned.

Its also doubly hard as I'm trying to make sure I keep that healthy distance and hold something back, something I never used to do in my AFC days. I'm only seeing her about once a week as I'm pretty busy and have other commitments, which she's been fine with, but I've still got that nagging voice from my darkest AFC days that says its too good to be true; things can't be this easy. Anyone relate?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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No woman is too good for you, maybe you're too good for them but not the other way around. This is supposed to be easy IMO, if you want a challenge go get one :)
 

BadsnakeUK

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Agreed - its just surprising how easy it is. Its a pleasant surprise after the blood sweat and tears of my AFC days to find things this easy. Back then I'd have crawled over broken glass for a girl of half this quality. Its nice but a little disconcerting at first to realise your game is up there now!
 
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