"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Is this is ok to say to a girl that flaked on you?

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MKS82

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Ok long story short im going to see this girl tomorrow. We have somewhat of a pass nothing too serious. But we stopped talking the last time was about 2 months ago. Some stupid sh!t happened so i guess we both said fvck it. She contacted me yesterday for the first time in 2 months to invite me to her party. I said i dont know if i can go well see.


Ill probably go though. The thing that is weird to me is on 3 seperate occasions i have stopped calling her after she flaked then maybe her friends will see me out or her sister/brother a couple weeks later and then she will call after that day in which i was seen. When and if i see her tomorrow is it alright to say geez do you always call people out of the blue like that? or so what made you invite me over? something along those lines. One other thing, should i bring just 1 friend with me or 3? Most likely her parents are going to be there and maybe some other adults cause it is for her college graduation. I dont want to look like a punk if i bring like 4 people with me.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Don't bring it up the phone call,I wouldn't. Just go on your own,meet some new people,you will have fun. Who knows,you may just relax or you could meet your future wife. Just keep an open mind and you will be fine.
 
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I wouldn't go on my own. I'd take a plutonic chick friend along, and not mention anything about her being a flake. Pretend you've got other **** on, and don't stay hanging around for too long. Most likely if it's her party she won't be spending that much time with you anyway... you don't want to be standing around bored like a loser.
 
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You know you could show up for a minute or two and do the job and get out,I bet you have some chores to attend to.;) Just go in,let her know your there,talk to her for a minute(keep it short) then says something along the lilnes of "Hey Iv got to go,I'm going to hang out with my girlfriend,it was nice to see you,Bye" and leave. By saying "I'm going to hang out with my girlfriend" she will automatically be thinking,"Wow this happened and I have no clue" whether she was interested in your before or not.
 
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Classic! To be honest I wouldn't say anything to her. You sound like the notorious "Back up" if you ask me. If you're gonna go, go with another woman. If you don't get with the "flakey" chick then well it's not all bad, you could try the chick you go with.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Well she is flakey so not sure your point of worrying about it. Don't bring up any sort of conversation at the party that involves mental thought. Just have fun.

I'd definitely bring a buddy to come along and see if there any other females you can ask out at the party.

She probably just invited everyone she knows and you happen to be the flavour of the day but definitely not a favourite food. :)
 
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