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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

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Is this IOI or just general comfort/confidence/accident?

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Ok here is the situation..

showing this chick some pics on the camera, and she leaned in really close and basically had her boobs pressed into my arm really hard. She did this 3-4 times while to look at different pictures.

I mean she has huge boobs, so maybe they were just in a way cause she has nowhere to put them? :p

It totally threw me off though, i dont remember a girl doing that in this kind of a situation, so i was like "uhm, is this accidental, or kind of her kinoing as a sign of comfort me and showing IOI?"

This was in an office environment, by the way. Oh and i know from other people that she has a boyfriend, yet she didn't mention him when i gave her an opportunity to (like when i asked who she lives with, etc)

Thoughts?

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Originally posted by arlanda
3 - 4 times? :D
yeah i know...

if it was some other girl, id take it as an IOI, but its a work situation, it was a first time i saw her, and she was acting very open and like she knew me forever if it makes sense..
 

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Originally posted by Egoist
she has a boyfriend
You must make a decision if u want to take her away from her boyfriend.


Originally posted by Egoist
its a work situation
You must make a decision if u want to game on girls you work with together.
 

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Originally posted by milkman
You must make a decision if u want to take her away from her boyfriend.




You must make a decision if u want to game on girls you work with together.
yes i know, and i am kind of her boss if that matters.. lol but i do abide by the motto "never **** where you eat"

anyways, there is some weird dynamic between us, but i have enough other girls to keep me occupied in the meantime.. so i am in no hurry to make any decisions.

but this chick is sort of "special" and that bothers me, because usually i stay away from the whole one-itis thing, which she'd have the potential to be..

anyways, i'm just going to take it very very slow and see what happens.. She's gonna be around for a long time so no rush..

oh and im definitely not running any game or BF-destroyer routines on her yet, im just going to see how it plays out.

but the question still is.. IOI or just accident? I wanna know about the damn boobs!
 

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and i am kind of her boss if that matters.. lol
lol, maybe she's there for a raise? :D

I don't know, never really met anyone so open and "friendly" (OK, friendly girls SMILE, not brush their boobs on you) so my guess is she's up to something.
 

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Originally posted by milkman
It was an IOI. ;)


hmm..

this would be so much simpler if we didnt work together.. :p

and like i said, it was just weird that she was doing that whole boobie bump/getting really close into my space thingy 15 minutes after meeting me..
 

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Originally posted by arlanda
lol, maybe she's there for a raise? :D

I don't know, never really met anyone so open and "friendly" (OK, friendly girls SMILE, not brush their boobs on you) so my guess is she's up to something.
no raise technically speaking, its a commission gig..

and yeah, i mean i've had girls look at the camera before, but never come really close and press their boobs into my arm! :D

i mean i'd expect that from a slutty chick in a club, but not from a seemingly wholesome "got-it-together" type..

oh and she does smile 24/7...
 

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